I noticed the other day; I was thinking back to thoughts that I had as a teenager in High School. So many ambitions, so many goals, I always dared to dream.
But in the back of my mind, those were just dreams, I always knew that they required a lot of hard work. I regularly doubted if I was good enough to achieve them but my fear of failure was the drive that I needed to keep myself going. Was it the best fuel for goals? Probably not, but it worked for me, at the expense of other areas of course.
Now with the value of hindsight, I can look back and comfortably say that all those larger goals I had back then, I’ve been able to tick off.
The teenage version of me would be proud, but the version of me that exists today, it has adjusted in a manner where it becomes almost expected. But I look at my targets for the future and hope that I can reach those in a similar manner. Because those for me are even more challenging than the ones I have achieved thus far, but the only difference now is that I stopped and looked back and gained the confidence in knowing that I have a track record of achievement.
It’s funny how the treadmill of life works sometimes.
I swear, I hear this question so much, especially amongst high school and university students.
In short, the answer is: Yes.
But the caveat to it is: It varies.
I take this from a Bachelor of Commerce perspective, since that is what I studied.
First of all, there should not be any reason why you should not aim to get the best High school results possible and aim to get into your first preference. But however, life doesn’t always go that way.
Does that mean your life is over?
No, not at all.
Can you still work in competitive fields like Consulting or Investment Banking? Yeah, it’s possible still, but harder.
Why harder? Generally, with any type of mass recruitment at junior levels, the first round of culling usually depends on how well well-rounded application you submit. Well rounded? Well, that’s one with solid grades and strong extracurriculars. Since thousands of students are applying, it’s usually the students from the top universities that make it through since they are often the ones that put in the time and energy to research the roles, and craft an application that stands out.
So, getting through that first round, I think it helps to go to a Top educational institution. If you didn’t get into one, you can always work hard and transfer into one after doing a year at another university.
But also, I’ve seen numerous lateral hires into top tier consulting and banking roles, some of them went to “less respected” Universities, worked themselves up and ended up being laterally hired into more senior roles. So, it’s definitely possible, but regardless, both approaches require a lot of hard work.
There are always numerous routes to get to an end goal, and just because the first route didn’t work out doesn’t necessarily mean you should give up. You could even work a few years, then do a Masters program at a more prestigious university either locally or abroad and then try your luck, I’ve had many acquaintances go down this path and achieve great success.
So tl;dr – Does it matter which University you attend? As a Commerce undergraduate student, Yes, it matters to a degree for certain professions. But there are other options to get to your goal. All options require hard work.
For other degrees like IT, or Health related ones, it matters less. Generally, as there’s demand and growth in those sectors.
When I moved to a new city a while ago, I messaged this girl who I knew also lived there.
She was just a girl I knew through some people and had met at a few parties. She is a very cute chick who was into partying, so ever the long-term thinker, I decided I should try to friendzone her and go to venues with her just for the good banter. Hot chicks are like currency in the night life scene.
Anyways, she made lots of promises to meet up, but kept flaking. No big deal as I wasn’t trying to bang her anyway.
Sometime later I sent her a message
“Hey you should come to X tomorrow. It’s my girlfriend’s birthday”
Like a nuclear bomb set off, she suddenly seemed super interested.
OMG you have a girlfriend?!?
Shows up to the party dressed like her life depended on looking hot. Starts getting flirty, physical and says the dirtiest things to my ear. Invites me out the next day to “catch up”.
Alright, of course I didn’t slam her out of principal, I actually was with someone.
In hindsight, a tactical error to invite her out in the first place.
I could say preselection works. I could also say women are hardwired to be homewreckers. Choose your own lesson.
First, take out a sheet of paper and write 100 times:
My flaws are never clearer to a man than after the first time he has sex with me. My flaws are never clearer to a man than after the first time he has sex with me. My flaws are never clearer to a man than after the first time he has sex with me.
Men don’t want it to be this way. A guy doesn’t choose to be less attracted to a girl. That doesn’t matter.
See, before sex a man thinks with his dick.
He is thinking of all your positive qualities and why he wants to fuck you.
He is conquest driven.
He doesn’t consciously acknowledge or think of your flaws.
After that first sweet sexual release, a man is forced to use his brain to evaluate you for the first time. Without a hard dick in his way, a man can more easily see a girl’s flaws.
Understanding this one thing about men’s sex drives could save women a ton of heart break: You are always more beautiful and interesting BEFORE we have sex with you.
Girls, your silver lining? Well, the dick has a short attention span. The longer a guy has to wait to have sex with you, the more he is forced to evaluate you using his brain and not his dick.
Guys who would ditch you after that first sex will ditch you just the same if forced to wait long enough. Successful, efficient players even admit to this as a strategy. It’s the three-date rule.
This is tough for women to truly grasp, since that first sex is likely to make them more attracted to the man. Then there’s a lot of waiting by the phone, jumping at every text message and being disappointed when its from your sister. It doesn’t have to be that way.
Of course, girls won’t really take this advice because its the attractive guys who won’t wait, but I’m putting it out there anyway.
HOWEVER, once a guy has seen a girl’s beauty fade over post-coital glow a few too many times, he learns two things
Raise your standards. There is less post-sex attraction drop with hotter girls.
Enjoy, don’t just tolerate, the time you spend with a woman before the first time you guys do it. Its the most you will ever desire her and its the most interesting she’ll ever be to you. Cherish it.
“You just like younger girls because they’re the only ones who fall for your dating tricks! You like them because they are easier to manipulate!”
Let’s cut right to the core:
Feminists say things like this because they hate young, beautiful girls and believe they are all stupid.
Let me tell you something: when it comes to relationship dynamics, girls are wily and smart as
fuck. They play most men like fiddles from age 12 onward. They think about relationships, talk constantly about relationships, and have many social interactions. Whether they want cock, money, attention, or commitment, they know how to get it.
Girls are not stupid, innocent victims.
They are predator, not prey.
Girls of every age are the manipulators far more often than they are the manipulated.
After age 24, women definitely do not get smarter about relationships. Their justifications do get stronger, though, out of necessity. (Besides, this premise is backwards. It is far easier to game older women into bed. They have less options and its likely been longer since they’ve had a good ol’ dicking.)
“You have nothing in common with a girl that young!”
I don’t have anything in common with the girls I’m attracted to, and I like it that way. It’s not a matter of age, it’s a matter of masculine and feminine.
I lift weights, she does yoga.
I order the steak; she orders the salad.
I watch Breaking Bad; she watches The Bachelorette.
I wear a suit; she wears a dress.
I don’t want a girl who sits on the couch watching football and scratching herself, because that’s my thing.
Having too much stuff in common sucks.
Wait, scratch that, I have a few things in common with the young girls I date: we both have high fertility and a deep passion for each other. Good enough for me.
“You date younger girls because you can’t get a girl your own age!”
Young girls being so in demand in the sexual market, any guy that can date one could easily pull an older one, he just doesn’t want to.
“No, really, an older woman would never put up with your shit!”
I won’t put up with her loose skin, baggage and jaded bitterness. Everybody wins!
“When you grow up in different times you have no common experiences to relate to!”
So, if I tell a girl the first CD I bought was Eminem – The Slim Shady LP and she says “Wow, me too! I was also born in 1989 and I also bought that CD in primary school with my chore money!” Is that a feminist’s idea of a good relationship? Conversations like that?
“You’re intimidated by a strong, independent woman!”
Replace “intimidated by” with “not attracted to”, and you have the truth.
When it comes to attracting a man, strength, independence and wisdom mean nothing. Youth, beauty and sweetness mean everything. Don’t Lean In.
“Younger girls are inexperienced, you should date someone older who knows what she wants!”
You see how most of the shaming tactics feminists use involve demeaning younger girls?
Young girls know what they want just fine.
Older women know what they want to: They want to be young again.
“Young girls are so immature!”
Age does not equal maturity.
Age can give a woman “maturity” not by virtue, but by NECESSITY:
When nobody is paying your way anymore, you have to work.
When nobody is giving you attention anymore, you stay out of clubs.
When the band won’t let you backstage anymore, you stop loving rock concerts.
Those who know what’s up will know that I wouldn’t not encourage guys to date immature sluts regardless of age.
Just because clubs are packed with sub-24-year-old skanks, that doesn’t mean all sub-24 year olds are club-going skanks.
There are girls who are both young and mature enough for a relationship. A girl who is not marriage material when she is young will never be marriage material.
“What does fertility matter if you’re not having kids with these younger girls?”
First of all, I do want kids.
Second of all, beauty is a proxy for fertility, and that’s what gets the dick hard.
This is really a retarded point so I don’t know why I’m responding to it. It’s like asking a girl
“why have sex if you’re on birth control?”
“You’re just having fun, when you start looking for something serious, you’ll get a girl your own age.”
When I am looking for “something serious”, aka long term commitment and kids, why the fuck would I choose a less fertile girl?
That is actually backwards. It makes far more sense for a younger guy to fuck cougars for a while
and then say “when I’m ready for kids I’ll choose a younger girl”. But I would never recommend such a strategy, because cougars are gross.
A friend of mine did the “girl his own age” thing, now they are 32 and want kids. She is having
fertility problems, so they are paying thousands for the turkey baster technique and so far, it hasn’t worked. 32 years old. Think about that. That’s serious, alright: Seriously depressing.
“Women in their thirties are at their sexual peak!”
Women in their thirties do not have higher sex drives. They have more unfulfillled sex drives. There is a difference. A woman may feel hornier in her thirties because for the first time attractive men aren’t lining up to please her sexually
How’s this for perspective: People who are not given free access to all you can eat buffets are hungrier. If you believe in evolution, then you understand how absurd it would be for a women to be horniest at the time of her life when she is more apt to give birth to retarded children.
“What would you even talk about with a 20 year old?”
The same things I would talk about with a 30 year old, only my conversation partner would be hotter.
Seriously, I do not need to talk about the eighties and early 90’s in order to have a successful conversation.
Flirting and connecting is the same regardless of age.
“Older women are sexy!”
Haha. Good one!
“No, really, I am a woman and I am much better looking now than when I was 19 or 20!”
This can be true… if you are a recovering fattie. Did you recently lose a large amount of weight because you were tired of being caught in harpooner’s crosshairs?
“No, I was never fat, I just grew into my features and I’m much better looking at 27 than I was at 18!”
If you want to be taken seriously, provide comparison pictures. I’m not holding my breath.
“But Beyonce/ Salma Hayek/ Jennifer Aniston, etc is still hot!”
Take your favourite over 30 female celebrity that the media gushes about. There are at least 20 undergrads your local University that are hotter than her. Some men may deny this, but their boners wouldn’t if given a bedroom test. This is true despite the fact that those old female celebrities are hotter than 99 % of women their age. If there’s no hope for them, there’s certainly no hope for average women.
Bonus: The University girls wouldn’t need expert photoshopping and world-class makeup application to look hot.
“Younger girls have so much drama!”
There are single girls of any age who are drama-prone. I always recommend guys screen out the drama queens. People who say this have a narrow characterization of younger girls. Not all 21 year old girls are in nightclubs crying every weekend. Some of them like to do things like read and spend time with their families.
I’m not trying to convince anyone to pull the girl dancing on the bar into an LTR. Find the diamonds in the rough and say no to drama queens and attention whores.
However, that younger girls are more prone to drama is a testament to their hotness and options.
Or: older women wish they had that much drama.
“You date younger girls for your ego! You just want to brag about it because you’re insecure!”
Men date younger girls because they are hot.
I am against bragging about your sex life, but any sense of well-being a guy gets from dating a young, beautiful, fertile girl is evolutionarily justified.
“Guys who date younger girls are creepy!”
Creepiness is not an age. Some guys who TRY to date younger girls are indeed creepy. Guys who successfully bridge large age gaps are not.
No, it would be gross for a guy to be attracted to old women. Icky!
“So, you expect women to just go away and die when they get older? They have no value on earth?”
I am talking about sexual market value and attractiveness only.
That you think sex is the only measure of female value says more about you than it does about me.
I love my mother, aunts, cousins, etc. They have great value to me. Females are the care givers and supporters of family.
Want to still mean something to somebody when you’re 60? Have kids, and be a devoted wife and mother.
So, there you have it.
I hope this clears things up for the aging fertility-drained, expired cougars who failed to attract a good man, when they were young, and for the bitter snarky herb army who have been invisible to women under 25 for their entire lives. Find solace in each other during this difficult time.
Girls love to be guided by someone who knows what they are doing.
You’ll bond over the shared experience.
She’ll love recognizing your status over her.
She’ll tingle by submitting to your instruction.
She’ll get good vibes and feel good as she improves.
You’ll display yourself as a man with power over his environment.
A man should have a few things he has mastery over, or at the very least a far greater understanding of than the average girl.
Remember: It’s not about how good of a teacher you are, or how much she actually learns. It’s about the experience. Also note: If you’re teaching something physical, there’s plenty of opportunity to touch her. So, do it.
There’s a reason ‘guy teaches girl how to shoot pool’ is a Hollywood classic: The shit works. I think a guy really should have some basic pool skill if only for this reason alone. Great second date idea.
If you have a not-too-boring job, teach her something basic you do at work. Roleplay if it involves social interaction.
Most modern women can’t cook, so teach her a new recipe at your place.
Teach her to throw a spiral or a baseball or shoot hoops. Any sports skill is good. Girls look so cute when they’re failing at athletics.
Teach her pressure points or other peculiarities of the human body.
Show her how to do her job or homework. I’ve helped girls write cover letters and resumes with great results. Boring? No, because I embed teasing in the fake cover letter like “I’m Julie and you should hire me because I have long shiny hair and I’m only semi-annoying”
Be creative. Have fun with it.
If you don’t have skills to teach, your first task is to acquire some skills.
Catherine inherits a large fortune when she turns 17.
She happily starts spending it on things that please her: a new car, designer clothes, Christian
Louboutin shoes, nights out with her friends, lavish parties, and exciting vacations across the world. She wants to start her own company eventually, but for now she enjoys not working and living life like a movie star. When Catherine hits her mid-twenties, she notices her fortune is close to half what it once was when she inherited it. It is still plenty, but she realizes it won’t last forever and she should start investing some of it.
She takes meetings from many companies who are salivating for her money. Many pitchmen and executives’ wine and dine her and make her promises about what her return on investment will be.
She picks an exciting company – a high risk, high reward venture. She dreams of recovering all the riches she once had and then some. Unfortunately, the company fails. It seems the pitchman may have lied to her, and frauded other investors as well.
Seeing more of her fortune dwindle, Catherine picks another high risk/high reward company to try to gain it back. When it fails, she tries another.
When Catherine crosses her thirtieth birthday, her fortune is about 1/9th what it once was when she inherited it.
Catherine realizes now she needs some guaranteed return. With her now rather small sum to invest, no executives are wining and dining her or competing for her money. She picks a stable, blue chip company to put her money in. To the company, her investment is modest and fairly replaceable.
Catherine has always dreamed of starting a small company of her own, but her financial advisor tells her she will probably have to take out a loan to do it.
This makes her very sad.
She tries to start a company, but she can’t and an angel investor to help it flourish, and it fails.
She withdraws money from her stable investment to live on throughout her late thirties and forties, occasionally hoping for a visit from an enthusiastic start-up who can turn her modest money into the large fortune she once had, but that visit never comes.
Shortly after she turns fifty, Catherine’s money is nearly gone, and she has to start working.
Monica inherits a large fortune when she turns 17.
She holds it for a few years, putting it in an account and being very choosy about how to spend it. After some time, she realizes that inflation and expenses are slowing eating away at her money, so she decides to invest.
Many executives and pitchmen are willing to wine and dine her for her money. She sees through the flashy salesman offering risky propositions and promising high returns. She chooses a stable company with a good reputation: Blue Chip, Inc.
The dividends are immediate: Modest but steady.
Being such a large investor, Blue Chip, Inc treats her like gold. Her money helps them enthusiastically expand operations and bring in new revenue streams.
Occasionally a slick talking salesman comes around promising her billions for a small investment but she rebuts them quickly, seeing a great future with Blue Chip, Inc.
In her twenties with the steady dividends coming in, Monica decides to start her own small companies – 4 in all. Since she is such a profitable, trustworthy and loyal business partner, Blue Chip, Inc is happy to invest in Monica’s companies and offer business and legal expertise to help them thrive.
Her thirties are a happy time as she runs her four companies, bringing them towards profitability. It is tough but satisfying.
In her late forties and fifties, her small companies all grow profitable and strong enough to support offshoot companies of their own. She has some stock in these companies as well. Being a trusted partner for so long, Blue Chip, Inc invests as well.
Monica has grown rich beyond her wildest dreams. She lives off the large dividends she still gets from Blue Chip, Inc and reinvests the rest in her companies.
I was catching up with a friend who was living in Hong Kong the past few years and London before that. We started talking about how it felt being back in Melbourne. The feeling of re-adapting to the place and so on. Here’s an excerpt of how the conversation went:
“Melbourne, it really comprises of the most materialistic minded people on earth. Dumb as a doorknob, completely degenerate, and used to a lifestyle which was just… a “lifestyle”. I heard someone calling it the “Seattle of the Southern Hemisphere” which is spot on. Leftism, atheistic materialistic “cafe” culture with loads of other faux-culture and at the same time riding a high-horse of an ill-perceived arrogance that’s based on nothing”
It was refreshing to speak to someone whose spent time in numerous cities and away from the Melbourne way of life.
As for me, after spending a number of years working and living abroad it is always intriguing to see how friends are doing back home.
Of course, everyone is a special snowflake and unique in their own way. But to simplify things, here are a few categories I have been able to place them into.
A bunch of friends have fallen into this category. The head first into their career, constantly pushing themselves to new limits often at the expense of their health. However, part of me understands. You see, in a pretty boring city like Melbourne, there’s only a few ways to really keep yourself occupied, go hard at your hobbies, go hard with family, or go hard on your career. If you’re in Finance, and want to move up the chair, most people will have to sacrifice many long nights and weekends churning out work to impress others and get that edge to move up the corporate ladder.
Ultimately though, how much is too much?
The difference of making $150k a year and $200k a year on a day to day basis probably isn’t noticeable to most. Money comes and goes, but time doesn’t after all.
The for lifer
Now these are the ones that ride the Melbourne train so hard. Boasting about the coffee and brunches as if no other city in the world compares. I nod and agree since it people in this category are usually so far gone that there’s not much point disagreeing. However in my head I think..
”Hmm.. go spend 3-5 years abroad in other more global cities in the world on a decent income and then come back to Melbourne”
But.. at this stage, its probably not the time in their life where they can afford to do that anymore since their so tied down to Melbourne.
I mean there’s nothing wrong with this category, but the young parents made the decision to have their kids young. So most of their time is spent on raising their kids. Understandable, I respect it.
Some people, actually most people, they aren’t making solid income or working in a field where they need to long hours.
You know, the ones that weren’t exactly cut out for complex tasks. The ones that can just coast. Do a whatever job, that’s 9-5 and have a ton of spare time to watch TV and buy useless stuff. The ones that need to post the useless stuff they bought from Big W on their social media.
Yeah, those types. I was reading an article in the Newspaper last week where a woman mentioned what she is most looking forward to after lockdown ends, her response “Getting my Kmart fix!”
Does it get any more Melbourne than that?
There’s a lot of hoarders in Melbourne, and buying stuff gives them that dopamine hit and keeps them busy so it acts as both a time sink and a source of joy. Win-Win, right?
Hey I can only stay for a minute. (He talks to her the rest of the night)
“…that is why things would never work out between us” (Then he takes her phone number)
“We should stop” “Yeah, we should” (he keeps going)
You can come in but only for a minute (She sleeps over)
Hands off, this shit ain’t free (He touches her 30 seconds later)
It is like a hack or a cheat code to seduction: You can physically and logistically escalate as long as you verbally deny it. Its to the point where I’m convinced you really could do one thing whilst saying you’re doing another and both parties are fine with it. Some whatt like discovering a flaw in a video game that lets you beat it every time.
If I could sum up the concept it is this: be the resistor (verbally), be the escalator (physically). Fundamentally speaking, this works because the one who wants the other less is in power. So being the resistor is a power play.
The catch? Girls know this and do it, and they do it better than men.
Do you always talk to girls on the street?
Nothing’s going to happen, I’m a good girl.
We’re not going to have sex tonight.
Most guys don’t get that girls are grabbing the power with these statements so they switch into chase mode like a pussy-begging dullard, leaking more and more control over the interaction until the girl’s legs snap violently shut like a bear trap.
Don’t do that.
Instead, you retake the control. Re-establish yourself as the resistor. When she steps back, you step back a little further. Every time she sets a boundary, you reset one in a different place. Every time she draws a line in the sand, you redraw one on your terms.
Her: I don’t kiss on the first date
You: Good, I don’t kiss before marriage
Her: We’re not having sex tonight
You: Relax, are you always thinking about sex?
Her: Let’s just be friends.
You: Nah I don’t see you as a friend. We shouldn’t hang out anymore.