Monthly Archives: January 2013

Dating: The Western Reality

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I must say, on the odd occasions I read a mainstream publication, I find it cringe-worthy how some deluded spinster with her MA from The University of Fail Whales, writes up specific rules for women on just about everything: how to show interest to a man, speak to him, show warmth, when to put out and so on. So why is this bad? It’s not hard to see that modern women in the western world are now finding it increasingly difficult being themselves around men as they have adapted their personalities with behaviour they witness at the movies and in celebrities, and “advice” they come across in your gossip magazines and relationship books, which collectively is an influential cultural force that your classic western girl just cannot overlook.

At a certain stage in a western girl’s life, generally in late high school, in university or just after, there is one guy who annihilates her heart. He basically tramples over her feelings and pulls off your stereotypical pump and dump, as we know it. She adored him a lot, but he failed respond for reasons unknown to her. She goes around looking for ways to mitigate this from happening in the future. Often, this leads to her girlfriends – who probably never had a meaningful relationship in their inexperienced lives providing her with “guidance” on how to keep guys around in the future. They overload her with advice straight from their limited understandings and obsessive reading of magazines. She’ll start reciting their advice mentally to remind herself: “Don’t seem too keen – that’s desperation! Show less interest. Don’t call him back right away. Remind him you’re seeing other guys. Respond to his texts the next day. Rock up late to dates. Don’t put out until you guys are two months in.” She takes this advice seriously, and complements it with horrendous girl magazine reading marathons. She ends up taking a strong liking to shows such as “Sex In The City” revering a show that showcases old deluded women, who are the epitome of failure at having a fulfilling relationship, but who have the advantageous skill of rationalising being complete slam pieces for an avalanche of men.

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Instead of tolerating that rejection is an undesirable part of life – which everyone experiences at some stage – and staying strong to find the right person with suitable characteristics, the typical western girl overplays it and integrates a ludicrous game that is just an intricate defence contraption against getting wounded emotionally. Her delusion, combined with her hypergamous desire, continues to lead her to guys above her league, and without any long term prospects. She continues to go back to the guys that use her, abuse her then reduce her to shreds. This in-turn converts her from a vulnerable, genuine, feminine young woman to an aloof, self-entitled and bitchy spinster – something no man could ever take seriously. Each pump and dump further masculinises her personality and continues to destroy her femininity. There is no withdrawing the venality of this western girl after this conditioning, and she will forever be spoiled in the eyes of a sincere, caring and honest man with options.

The same man who probably would find this girl’s old-self somewhat alluring and relationship-worthy is tremendously distressed that this pretty girl plays the game so hard. Because in reality, there’s no guy with value out there that will want to really invest in a girl that is so detached, “busy” and so easily influenced by your magazines and fictional television programs. So what does he do? He puts up with her cold, bitchy personality just long enough to get that notch on his bedpost, and then proceeds to discard her like yesterday’s trash. It’s ironic that a girl who is scared of getting pumped and dumped takes on a persona that causes guys to do exactly that, even more. Her feminine allure disappears, she becomes an object for guys to work out, smash then dash. There’s nothing keeping them attached to her, as her inability to show any human vulnerability or warmth regulates them to view her as a short-term physical prospect. She continues to struggle to understand why these “douchebags” and “assholes” never call back. She still fails to understand that many men out there desire a cute, feminine girl who treats him well, and shows affection.

Your typical western girl will fly throughout her prime years taking intense and lengthy rides on the cock carousel. Her money will be used on clothing, nights out, and trips to exotic overseas locations, sampling random cock without the consequence of being perceived as the slut she is, by her friends back home. Instead of improving herself, her traits, her qualities, and making herself more desirable to high-quality men, she will slut it up by banging and “dating” many guys concurrently and yet be completely unhappy with herself at the same time. She will supplicate this with constant reassurances such as “I’m just having fun”, “No man is good enough for me” or “I’m not ready for a relationship” all throughout these years. Her best physical years pass as her biological clock ticks away and she realises that she doesn’t get as many looks from guys as she used to, she realises that spinsterhood soon could become a terrifying reality, she realises that the 68 notches on her bedpost could be a bit of a problem in the eyes of many. Still, she remains defiant, persuading herself that she is “More cultured, more desirable, more worthy than ever!”. She believes that her promotion at her new job and Masters degree entitles her to a high-value partner, yet her illogical mind struggles to comprehend that men cannot fall in love or have sex with a woman’s job and qualifications.

The sexual marketplace is harsh and she soon discovers that these false misconceptions will get her nowhere. She tries desperately to deceive some low-value desperado into being a provider for her. She puts up an act just long enough for him to put a ring on it and see the poor inexperienced guy make the worst decision of his life. He marries and pays full price for the damaged goods she is, leading to a miserable married life for both. She strays and begins cheating as her slutty attitudes from the past just don’t seem to go away and then comes a messy divorce. She rinses her now ex-husband clean from the divorce and then becomes a desperate cougar. She continues trying new ways to find that last chance of happiness, whilst working away at the gym excessively to find new younger prey. Yet, despite this, she is ends up still being miserable and unhappy for the remainder of her saggy days.

Her daughters grow up to be huge damaged sluts just like her.

Rinse and repeat.

And there we have it, a western reality.

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Hipster Heroes

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In Melbourne, there’s a common subculture within a few of the inner-city suburbs, Hipsters.  People who belong in this hipster category are concerned with their appearance substantially more than the regular person. Often they feel that they are “unique” and have an “alternative” vibe to them. It’s almost oxymoronic though as this expanding subculture seems to be rather homogenous amongst themselves.

Hipsters are often identifiable by the following characteristics:

  • Ugly prescription glasses, or hipster frames
  • Outfits that make you wonder if they are trying out for a position in the circus
  • Chronic Tumblr addicts
  • Always trying to be very witty and ironic, even if it’s not in their normal personality
  • Stupid tattoos
  • 2nd Hand Clothes
  • A dirty look implying they shower once a month
  • Overconfident even though they are only knowledgeable about music and fashion

Nowadays, you can just roll up to a hipster bar in places like Fitzroy or Collingwood with a daggy-looking clothes and firmly get accepted within their circle. Oh also, you might need to make some longer term cosmetic changes. First, grow out your hair and beard. Second, buy a couple deep v-necks along with a snug pair of jeans. It doesn’t have to be skinny jeans, but it shouldn’t be baggy in the 50 Cent style. Congratulations, you now have a basic look that will not be objectionable to the hipster “niche”

As The University of Melbourne is located close to the hipster hot-zones of the inner northern suburbs of Melbourne, it’s often quite common to see students that fall within this grouping. Most seem to be Arts or Science students however you’ll occasionally come across them from other courses.

One way to stand out from the other hipster guys without getting an even more depressing tattoo or being in some loser band is to have some muscles. Hipster dudes are frail with Holocaust style concentration camp bodies, so having a more athletic build—that your v-neck will undoubtedly highlight—will do a better job of being slightly unique within a largely homogenous grouping. Just don’t be jacked because hipster chicks don’t like that. Even though hipsters are obsessed with their look, making sure each strand of hair is strategically placed across their face, the trick is making it seem like you don’t really care. It’s tough but once you pull it off, you’ll know how it really feels to be a true hipster.

It’s odd, hipsters try hard to emit a care-free ambiance, however they are often some of the most self-absorbed people around, especially in a city like Melbourne.

Guest Post: Feminism – What really matters?

So I received a nice guest post from a reader of this blog. I thought I would accept their offer of posting it on here:

Feminism – What Really Matters?

 

Most women feel that they are jaded and abused by men. They often feel that they are particularly leveled low and regarded as the weaker gender. In most cases, the shout for equality is too loud that it is heard everywhere. Feminists often feel that they are suffering injustice and inequality because of their sex. They often believed that most gender divisions in our society are particularly working to the advantage of men. Let us say for example, in a home, a feminist holds the opinion that they are assigned to do the household tasks without compensation. The family for them is considered patriarchal and that they are oppressed by working to the advantage of the male gender. Sometimes deprived to look for a job of their own they end up being dependent on men for money. This happens because they have to take care of their children and cover for the household responsibilities. They also have to look after the welfare and well-being of their kids as well as attend to the emotional care of their children, even husbands too. Although, women have jobs, they still have to do these things for their family that the husbands are not required to do. This makes it even harder for women to cope with it on top of the house chores and their jobs. Even with society, the male gender is considered dominant with notions that most things are better done by men rather than women. This may be so, but do you think focusing on these things would do women any good?

The Part Played by Feminism

Feminism calls for the eradication gender inequality to uphold women’s rights, issues and interests in the society. However, the ideology focuses on too many negative issues that it becomes exaggerated while some women overdo it resulting to hypocrisy. Like when men try to win a woman by being nice, gentle and romantic which is believed by men as what most women want. In this case, the woman would consider the man as simply acting out and has a hidden agenda. She would even label the guy as the “creepy nice guy”. However, on the other hand, when a man does the opposite and acts casual, women would consider the guy as irresponsible and unable to ‘man up’. This applies to women who are older and are looking for serious relationships at the time.  Now, they wanted the creepy nice guy that they have shunned before. The hypocrisy on feminism is also evident in the case of divorce in America. Women wanted equal rights socially and intellectually, yet they require alimony after divorce. There are also cases when women cannot do their part in the household. Let us say for example, a woman does not know how to cook. Still, that being the case, she still expects her man the full responsibility of providing like pay bills, mortgage, etc. without having to complain. She calls for equality when it is only for her advantage. Upholding women’s rights is not a bad thing at all. However, the hypocrisy behind it makes it look bad.

What Really Matters?

Focusing too much on the negative issues of gender differences often makes feminists blind of the current changes in our society. They still feel that they are victims of inequality despite that a lot has happened since then. Feminism started long before with a noble intention to gain respect for women when it comes to politics and society. However, as one feminist comes after another, the mindset and ideologies changed.  Modern feminists are becoming angry and call for too much equality and would like to be everything that the male gender is. However, in real life, that kind of thing is not possible. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. In a family, men and women are supposedly partners. They should compensate each other with regards to their strength and weaknesses. The husband protects his family as the wife nurtures it. Now, it would then destroy the bond between the two when one rejects the responsibility that is expected of them. As with modern feminism, women believed that doing the household chores and caring for their children is injustice on their part, then that breaks the marriage or bond resulting in divorce and failed marriages.  This also, being the case, women refuse to get married and would rather prefer to live in with her partner than be tied with the vows of marriage. This also applies to more women who prefer the use of contraceptives and even abortion in order to avoid being tied up in a relationship. As feminists promote the use of contraceptives, a lot of negative things follow. These include young women engaging in sex at a very young age as well as cases of sicknesses and cancer in women. Not to mention, the failed marriages and broken families that causes confusions among their children. Now, as a woman, do you honestly think that these actions and ideologies of feminism really did you good? Women should embrace their responsibilities as women. This also applies for men to so.

The Bottom Line

Feminist’s voices are so loud that there have been changes since they called for equality. More laws have been on the side of women in general. Now, this subjugates men a bit too far. Most women, nowadays, conquer the corporate world, making men fall into the category of second-class citizens. Even, the laws favor women resulting for men to have lesser chances of gaining custody of their children. Men lost their roles in society especially with women having to earn more money than they could. Now, this kind of scenario has changed the society a lot, and as a matter of fact, for the worse. Women occupying a better position than men in society, not only diminishes the men’s role in society but also in a family as well. Women must remember that they have fathers who protected and took care of them and whom they have and should respect. Same goes to their children, who should keep that kind of image of their father in the family.