Monthly Archives: August 2017

Western Female Entitlement Never Stops

It’s funny how entitled Western Females still are when they travel to more traditional societies.

This following article I came across recently from a sub-par looking Western Female whom lived in Japan and couldn’t help but to bitch about the lack of interest she received from men whilst her Western male counterparts enjoyed better success. She struggles to contain her jealousy and simply can’t refuse to take a dig at the expat men in Japan at every given opportunity. It’s rather convenient she forgets how easily Western Women date up in Feminist ridden countries.

“We usually have a tough time keeping female teachers here,” my boss informed me on my first day of work as an English teacher in Tokyo. “They usually don’t last more than six months.” I looked up from studying the roster list of teachers (30 — all male), in surprise.

“You mean at this school?”

“No, I mean … in Japan.” He shrugged. “Tokyo’s a tough city to be single … If you’re, you know … a western woman.”

I stole a quick glance at the photos that were mounted on the wall behind him. Four middle-aged White Dudes. All of them were bearded and balding. All of them resembled the aging, stringy-haired members of the band Metallica. And all of them were pressed up against the model-thin bodies of a heavily made-up Japanese Beauty Queen.

I don’t think I’ll have a problem, I thought.

It wasn’t that I was beauty queen gorgeous. Far from it. Slim, medium-height, with hazel eyes and freckles, I was at best ‘cute’ and at worst, average. But I had something that the competition didn’t: long, naturally curly, blond hair. Furthermore, I was bilingual, well-traveled and college-educated.

But as I realized a few weeks into my stay in Japan, I was also mysteriously, frustratingly invisible.

 

Cute baristas at Starbucks wouldn’t look at me, business men on bicycles ran over me and college students hurriedly backed away from me with mumbled apologies whenever I tried to strike up a conversation about the weather or ask for directions. They wouldn’t even give me the time of day. Literally.

“You’ve got to be assertive,” my Japanese girlfriends advised. “Japanese guys are shy so you have to make the first move.” So I smiled invitingly at men in bars and on busses. I asked for help reading restaurant menus and subway signs.

“Do you have any book / drink reccomendatioins?” was my usual line as I stood near them in bookstores or sat next to them on barstools. But the ‘come hither’ stare or conversation starter doesn’t work if the other person refuses to look at you. If they met my gaze at me at all, it was just to shoot me this panicked look, like I’d just asked them to father my unborn children. My boss had been right. It was hard to be a single, western woman in Japan. But why?

I turned to the Internet for advice and was surprised to learn that the Dateless Western Woman was a familiar character in the expat world, at least judging from the score of postings on expat forums by lonely, single females.

But as wide-spread as the problem seemed to be, it was one that many women avoided talking about. Understandably it was a tough subject to discuss without grossly overgeneralizing fifty percent of a country’s population or worse, sounding like a racist or a man-hating, snob.

The pervading theory though, among expats and Japanese alike, was that Japanese men were in fact attracted to western women but were just too intimidated to do anything about it. Western women in Asia were like the Jennifer Anistons of the expat world. Strong, independent, assertive and outspoken, they were interesting to admire from afar, but no man would ever dream of striking up a conversation with one. Western women were so different, so foreign, they were virtually un-datable.

Not true for their Y-chromosome-carrying expat buddies though. While the female expats spent Saturday nights alone, crying into their Ramen bowls, their male counterparts drank freely from the dating pool like they owned it. Which in a way, they did.

If you’ve ever visited Asia, you’ve likely seen the pale, rail-thin, greasy-haired white boy walking hand-in hand with a perfectly made-up, mini-skirt wearing Asian chick. This would never happen anywhere else in the world. Because everywhere else, Barbie ends up with Ken, not his underemployed, socially-awkward, samurai-sword-collecting neighbor, Kevin. But in Asia, dating rules defy all logic or evolutionary law. In Asia, the nerd is king.

Not that I wished it otherwise. For the most part, I was happy for them. These men wouldn’t have been able to score a date at home if they’d been a calender but in Asia they’d nabbed the prom queen. They were true success stories. Who could blame them for taking advantage of a magical loophole that allowed them to date women out of their league? If such a nirvana existed for Western woman, I’m sure I’d have moved there too.

But although the occasional coupling sparked the “Is she really going out with him?” question, it was easy to understand why Japanese woman saw Western men — even the nerdy ones — as attractive dating prospects. They were straight-forward and open-minded, for one thing. And through their Western, wire-rimmed eyes, they viewed relationships as an equal partnership, which was something the more traditional, close-minded of Japanese men still struggled to do. I figured that so long as they treated their girlfriends well and both partners were happy with the arrangement, what did it matter if their peculiar quirks and bizarre comments got lost in translation a little? Even the socially awkward deserved to love and be loved.

But it was hard not to feel jealous. Especially as I spent weekend after weekend, bravely facing the club’s dance floor alone while my dorky expat brothers expertly flirted for phone numbers and first dates. They were like kids in a candy store. The Japanese women were gourmet truffles, while the western women were the three-year-old tootsie rolls melted to the bottom of the barrel. The Japanese men might have been frightened of us but the other expat men just flat-out ignored us.

But as I often reminded myself, I hadn’t come to Asia for a boyfriend. I’d come because I wanted to master Japanese and explore a culture drastically different from my own. But I just hadn’t expected that moving my life to Japan would mean leaving my love life at home. As much as I’d enjoyed my life in Tokyo, it just didn’t seem like a fair trade.

Not that the female dating situation in Japan wasn’t without the occasional success story. I knew of a few women who’d come to Japan and left with husbands or fiancées in tow. But they were the minority. Most western women came to Japan single and stayed that way.

I was walking from work one Friday evening when it dawned on me that I’d been in Japan for nine months. I inwardly congratulated myself for having beat the odds. I’d proven my boss wrong. But as I trudged home to face another evening of reruns of The Office and left-over sushi from 7-11, I wondered at what cost. Most days I felt unattractive, unwanted and worst of all, unfemale. When not even a short skirt or slinky top attracted more than a passing glance and even construction workers, who could usually be counted on for a leer, regarded me with bored, blank expressions, I felt like a Martian. And very, very alone. Perhaps I’d been wrong not to leave when the last shipload of foreign women sailed away to brighter horizons and better dating odds.

Because the truth is that Tokyo’s a tough city to be single … if you’re, you know, a Western woman.

I was pleased to see that people responded to her accordingly. This comment was spot on:

Wow, what a sexist comment. But it’s not unexpected after this grotesquely sexist read.

“Creepy” is a favorite word of misandrists seeking to delegitimize male sexuality.

How dare this “sub-value” man pursue an attractive woman! He is “creepy”!

Of course the writer of this article is not particularly attractive, and wants a date. (Did you read those pickup strategies?!) Was that creepy? No. That apparently is deserving of sympathy.

But not the male version. That’s “creepy”

Go away, Lauren. Take your sexism back to the West where it can continue to masquerade as feminism.

Glad to see some guys are soyboy herbs sucking it up and feeling sorry for her.

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Sink Yourself

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I pulled some skank from yet another random venue the other week and had some interesting realisations.

It was a regular club pull, so obviously my expectations were low besides the superficial expectation of decent looks being met.

Given her attributes, it was obvious to me she had discarded any sense of respect and went down the Instawhoring path of attention seeking. At 19, she had already been spitroasted by two guys, banged multiple men the same day and had a lot of random one nighters. “Empowered” feminists will muster up some garbage as to how shes “exploring” herself in the typical delusion that is evident in their ideology.

However, I felt sorry for this teenager.

As I banged her, her phone throughout the evening just could not stop vibrating. Constant messages, likes, calls, photos. At one moment, her phone lit up right in front of my eye line and displayed a number of notifications.

The view was quite interesting.

Tinder, Facebook Messenger, Instagram, WhatsApp, Skype. All of which had notifications with explicit sexual content from a myriad of guys. I thought to myself how a girl can succumb to such an existence and be happy. The search for attention and “meaning” for a girl eventually leads them down this path of simply resorting to existing as a sexual commodity for a large spectrum of men. It’s sad that women have reduced themselves to this level and I expect the fall to continue. The level of common sense these days amongst young women is honestly dipping to record lows. It was no wonder she complained that no guy would hang around, I mean who would? Knowing that special “snowflake” is constantly sinking herself to please men after men erodes any value left within her. Yet, this basic common sense is now distorted by the cultural Marxism we experience.

A bit of advice..
If you’re idea of success and happiness is having a horde of thirsty guys sending you sexual messages at weird times at the night, you’ll only get pumped and dumped and discarded like yesterdays trash from any guy with standards.

If you long for constant commentary and likes for your bikini clad photo on Instagram, your dopamine addicted brain will never be satisfied with the attention one guy will give you.

And yes, I know, even if you’re a girl that does this, you’ll rationalise the hell out of it and never admit to your shortcomings, which is fine, results and notches speak for themselves.

Small World

Years ago, I was abroad in Eastern Europe and in some bar where I met a student who was studying her Medical degree abroad.

Just the other day, I went to get a minor injury looked at the local hospital, and after I walked in. There was a moment of silence.

Then a greeting in a foreign language different from the country in which we reside in currently.

Following that the removal of the surgical mask which revealed the doctors identity.

It was her, from all those years ago.

7 years later, it all came full circle.