March | 2018 | Inside The University of Melbourne

One of the best things you can do for your sex life is shut the fuck up about it.

Don’t tell anyone who you’ve fucked.

Don’t tell anyone who you want to fuck.

If a girl sends you nudes, don’t show anyone.

If you tell sex and pickup stories, make the girl anonymous or don’t tell the story at all.

Why?

Your validation from sex is the nut.

You have sex for the sex, not to talk about it afterwards.

Gossiping about your sex life is a weak, attention-seeking activity.

You can pick up, seduce and bang the hottest girl you’ve ever seen, get it documented on video and camera, and never tell anybody about it or show anybody the evidence, deriving all your satisfaction from just the experience itself, then you can call yourself a man.

I have rarely heard a guy talk about his sex life and look cool in the process. Listen closely the next time a guy starts bragging about where he stuck his dick. You’ll note how approval-seeking and desperate to impress he is.

Beyond that, keep in mind that hooking up with a guy is rarely good for a girl’s social status. Being judged socially is one of many negative consequences that can happen to a girl having casual sex. If you eliminate this consequence she’ll be far more likely to have sex with you or keep having sex with you.

Present yourself as a guy who does not gossip about sex.

In regards to the world beyond the tip of your own penis, you should make it a point of pride not to gossip about other people’s shit as well.

Gossip is a tool the unworthy use to get attention by leveraging the actions of the worthy. The gossiper is rewarded with a brief dash of attention, but they sacrifice their honour and respect in the process.

Nobody respects a loud mouth.

Okay, but what about trust? What if you really trust the person? Then can you tell them stuff.

There is almost nobody on this earth you can trust. Let’s run through the usual suspects.

You can’t trust women. Anything worthwhile you tell a woman will be known by her bestie
and her mother within the hour. This includes your girlfriend, wife, sister, mom, anyone. They all gossip. Gossiping is as natural as breathing to a woman. They constantly need to have their feelings about a situation validated and the only way to do that is to talk about it. Don’t tell a woman anything unless you want everyone else to know. Don’t ever tell a woman classified information and then bitch that she told someone else, even if you told her it was a secret. It is her nature to tell secrets and you should know better. It is your fault, not hers.

You can’t trust loser dudes. Boring guys can’t get attention from their own personality and actions, so they’ll gossip about yours if they have to. Loser males also don’t understand the world of a guy who has options with women. Your sex life will probably destroy his worldview. If a guy doesn’t get laid regularly, he can’t be trusted with your secret.

The only person on this earth capable of keeping your secret is an male with the abundance mentality who has proven loyalty to you. You will be very lucky to meet even a handful of these guys in your

life. Your brothers or father are not in this category by default, they need to earn trust just like anybody else. You may make many friends and acquaintances in life but only a very select few, if any, may get to this level. You should strive to be this person to your friends and family. I have a few secrets that could cause those close to me great harm that I’m taking to the grave.

Keep your mouth shut and your dick hard.

We hate how easy it can be. We hate that if it isn’t us, it will be with some other guy. We hate that so many women will likely never make decent wives or mothers. And we hate when a woman who spent her most attractive years hooking-up with strange men tries to play the good girlfriend with us. It’s a bittersweet relationship at best.

Women love that they can have their cake and eat it too. They love that they can employ an alpha fux beta bux strategy. But they also are far less stable in marriage than their less promiscuous counterparts. Though they might not admit it, it’s a bittersweet relationship for them as well.

This is why men say not to turn a ho into a housewife.

What is it about Western society that allows for this degree of female sexual freedom? Science has several factors that help explain it.

Reliable Care For Unplanned Pregnancies

Several studies provide great insights in to this matter. The first is “Norms of Premarital Sexual Behavior: A Cross-Cultural Study” by Gwen J. Broude. The second is “Cultural Customs That Influence Sexual Freedom in Adolescence” by Herbert Barry III and Alice Schlegel. The former can be found on Google Scholar, but you’ll need access to a database to read the second.

Both studies use data and results from numerous other studies, so they are a good launching point if you choose to go down this rabbit hole.

One of the more significant findings in these studies is the importance of care for children born out of wedlock. In societies that are matrilineal (trace descent through the mother’s family) and/or matrilocal (reside with mother’s family), there is an association with female premarital sexual permissiveness (the common measurement of women’s sexual freedom).

What made the correlation significant is when care for children was factored in to the equation. When a baby is born out of wedlock, if there are more people in the house willing to care for the child, there is a significant correlation with female premarital sex.

We are always reminded that correlation does not equal causation, but in this case, kinship theory and paternity certainty can help explain a cause for this. There are societies (usually matrilineal) in which the father does not care for a child, the mother’s brothers do. While the father shares more of his genes with a child than a maternal uncle does, he can never truly be certain (until modern paternity tests are used) that a child is his. Maternal uncles, however, have 100% certainty that their nephews are theirs.

The latter study mentions:

Matrilineal descent encourages sexual freedom by minimizing the need to establish paternity of the children. In our society, fear of pregnancy is likewise relieved by the development and widespread use of effective contraceptive devices. The mobility of individuals and families in our industrial society corresponds to an attribute of many horticultural societies, where descent is associated with sexual freedom.

This is why, in my article on saving American families, I argue for measures that force parents to care for their own children.

Female Coming Of Age Rituals

In highly stratified, complex societies like ours, coming of age rituals for females are correlated with sexual freedom. There isn’t much explanation for this in the literature. But we can imagine scenarios in our own society that could offer insight.

If we take a scenario like a sweet sixteen birthday party in which girls who are already maturing sexually are welcomed into womanhood, we can see why a girl at that age would engage in premarital sex. They can’t marry and are told they shouldn’t anyway for several more years. Yet they are welcomed into womanhood. Adult women have sex. Being allowed to have sex but not allowed or not encouraged to get married is a recipe for sexual freedom.

Sweet 16 or a Kirill champagne facial night club event? I can’t tell.

Another ritual like leaving the house to live in a university dorm could have essentially the same effect.

High Degree Of Personal Freedom

Unlike other stratified societies, where individuals are tied to their families by strict cultural norms and expectations and by family honor codes, ours emphasizes personal freedom. That is something typically found in less stratified, hunter-gatherer type cultures.

Because our society doesn’t define an honor code or integrity very well, we have personal honor codes and personal integrity. Nobody holds you accountable to them but yourself. If your personal honor code doesn’t restrict premarital sex, it is allowed. That’s as true for women now as it is for men.

Women At Work

One of the findings of these studies was a positive correlation between women’s contribution to providing for the household and sexual freedom. Western society is consistent with this.

The more women work—especially outside the home—to contribute to the home, the more female premarital sex is permitted. It’s not hard to imagine a graph in which women’s sexual freedom rises as the percent of their financial contribution to household income increases, though such a graph does not yet exist. Think of women in the 1950s, how much they worked, and how much sexual freedom they had versus women in 2018.

One last piece, which was mentioned but not discussed in depth but probably should be, was the sexual freedom of males. Obviously, if males have more freedom, they need women with whom to have sex. Logic tells us that the ratio would be 1:1, give or take. To imply otherwise would be to permit a small number of women to sleep with many men.

This leads to the question, “Can we curb liberal female attitudes to sex while allowing males sexual freedom by permitting prostitutes to operate freely?” More importantly, should we?