There’s often talk of hypergamy for women, marrying a higher status male to elevate herself in the sexual marketplace, but what about for men?
I recently was thinking about this. There’s the common saying of a man “Batting above his average” when he is with a girl that is often more beautiful than he is handsome, but everyone whose reading this would know that a man’s sexual market value (SMV) is generally derived more from factors besides looks. His social status, wealth, demeanour and confidence all play a part, and a man scoring highly on those areas will not have much of a problem nabbing a worthy girl.
However, there’s also another lens which gets overlooked rather often these days. The value of a girl with innocence who hasn’t been cock carouselled like the vast majority. Being chaste isn’t rewarded as a man, but is as a woman. Any player can bang and commit to a carousel rider that’s ridden an array of dudes after hitting puberty but girls who actually value their hymen are few and far between and less likely to spread for a guy with a massive notch count.
It would be rare seeing a guy with a solid triple digit notch count with a virgin, or a low notch girl, but if that is a metric which means something to the player and that goal is achieved a part of me sees that as almost hypergamous for the male. As documented, there are numerous benefits of having a low or no notch partner, and in a world where everyone fucks everyone, a hint of innocence is refreshing.
The references to past experiences, the emotional damage from exes, the uncontrollable comparisons to guys from the past – these are all things that women often do without realising and make it harder for them to bond to a man after they’ve had their fill of “fun” so to speak. So it makes total sense for a guy to want someone whose not going to have a large spectrum of experiences. “My ex” this and “My ex” that conversations should come up briefly in the beginning once you get to know one another but having those as a constant feature throughout a relationship is simply toxic and avoiding the risk of that is always going to be more desirable.
I’ve always held firm that “Men lie, women lie, notches don’t” when it comes to desirability in the sexual marketplace and I truly can’t believe if a girl is perpetually used by dozens of guys that she’ll have a personality, warmth or femininity left in her to be as desirable as she once was. Setting that hard boundary on what you can accept as a man is a trait most guys these days don’t have anymore, either through constant societal pressures or thirst.