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Jul 14 2025
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They All Did OK – A Reflection on Where We Came From

A guest post from a Melbourne friend of mine whom I recently bumped into whilst travelling, we were reminiscing days back at University and despite coming from different parts of Melbourne and different backgrounds, we had a lot of similarities. Below is his post. Enjoy!

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A mate of mine recently went down a bit of a rabbit hole, stalking some of our old high school crew from back in Melbourne. I’ve never really been on social media, so I didn’t have much of a clue where most people had ended up. But I’ll admit, it was interesting. Eye-opening, even.

The overwhelming takeaway?
They all did OK.

Most of them, anyway.

From what he could piece together, the vast majority stayed in Melbourne. They’ve carved out reasonably stable lives, average jobs, a couple of nice cars floating around, weddings here and there, kids in the mix. A few have crossed that elusive median income mark, which, if you knew where they came from, would be seen as a win. These were the kids who grew up around Centrelink offices, corner milk bars that sold more ciggies than milk, and families where university wasn’t so much discouraged, it just wasn’t part of the conversation.

To see them now, doing alright, building lives, that’s something to be proud of.

Some got married early. Like, really early. Kids by 21. A few had families before they’d even had a proper go at figuring themselves out. Interestingly, those who went straight into TAFE or full-time work after Year 12 seemed to start families younger, while the university crowd generally waited a bit longer, maybe not by design, but more so a side effect of trying to hustle degrees, internships, and grad roles before thinking about nappies and school pick-ups.

But that’s not a criticism. In fact, it’s kind of fascinating how the path you take after high school shapes not just your career but your life timeline. The ones who knuckled down early: apprentices, trades, retail supervisors, they got a head start in adulting, while others were still trying to figure out their student HECS debt and how to do a proper meal prep.

There was a certain insularity that lingered with many of them, though. You can see it in the social media posts and the local check-ins. Most haven’t ventured too far beyond the radius of where they grew up. Same suburb, same mates, same rhythm. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. For a lot of people, that’s safety. That’s comfort. That’s community. But for me, there was always a quiet pull to break away from that, to see what else was out there, to rewrite the blueprint a little.

It’s worth acknowledging the reporting bias too. The ones who post the most on socials? They’re usually the ones who are doing well enough to want to show it off. The holidays to Asia, the car upgrades, the weddings with drone footage. But there were names I hadn’t heard in years, ones that didn’t show up in the digital highlight reel. A few had fallen into rough crowds, made some bad choices, got stuck in loops that are hard to break out of. No judgment, it could’ve been any of us, really. The margins are thin when you’re young, broke, and trying to find direction with no map.

And then there are the ghosts. The ones who, like me, just aren’t online. No Facebook status updates, no Instagram reels, nothing to like or react to. Not because they’re hiding, just because they’re living. Quietly. Privately. Maybe they’ve outgrown the need for that constant performance. Maybe they’ve learned that fulfilment doesn’t need an audience. I can relate to that.

Looking back, I can’t help but feel a bit of pride, not just for what I’ve done, but for all of us. For coming from a background where we were surrounded by distractions and dead-ends, and still managing to find something that resembles stability. Some of us took longer. Some got there quicker. Some are still on the journey. But in a world that often reduces success to job titles and house prices, it’s important to remember that for some people, just getting through is a win.

For me, the need to hustle was always there, part internal drive, part external pressure. I didn’t want the default path. I didn’t want to be the guy who peaked in Year 12 or never left the west. I wanted more, even when I didn’t know exactly what “more” looked like. So, I moved, I studied, I worked, I took risks. Gratefully, I’ve been fortunate enough to find some sense of purpose and direction, even if the path wasn’t always clear.

But here’s the thing: I don’t think I’m better than anyone. Just different. And in many ways, I owe a lot to those who stayed, to those who reminded me of what I left behind, and why. Their stories ground me. They remind me not to take anything for granted.

It’s also a lesson in not romanticising the past too much. Our teenage years were messy, confusing, sometimes beautiful but often brutal. A lot of us were just trying to survive in our own ways, through humour, bravado, sport, study, or silence. We didn’t have therapists or TikTok wellness advice. We had each other, skipping class and going to the local shopping centre, playing console and computer games after school and the usual joys of adolescence that come with that era.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from all of this, it’s that life’s not a race. The paths we take are as varied as the reasons behind them. Some of us sprint, some crawl, some double back and start again. And some just stay put… and that’s OK too.

So, here’s to the quiet wins.
To the ones raising families with love and patience.
To the ones holding down jobs and paying off mortgages.
To the ones who might’ve stumbled but kept getting back up.
To the ones who never made it online..but still made it somewhere.

They all did OK.
And who knows, maybe I did too?

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May 02 2025
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🎓 How AI is Changing Uni Life: The Good, the Bad, and What Now?

Alright, let’s not muck around — artificial intelligence isn’t some far-off, sci-fi concept anymore. It’s already here, stitched into how we study, write, and even communicate. Whether you’ve quietly used ChatGPT to wrap your head around a tricky essay topic or know someone who’s let it do all the heavy lifting (not ideal, mate), AI has well and truly landed at UniMelb.

But what does that actually mean for the students, the tutors, and the whole learning experience? Is AI just a time-saving tool, a recipe for disaster, or the start of something way bigger?

Let’s dive into it: the good, the dodgy, and what might be coming around the corner.

✅ The Good: Your New Digital Study Buddy

Let’s start on a positive note. For heaps of students, AI is like a productivity boost on tap. Tools like ChatGPT, Grammarly, Notion AI – they’re the new go-to’s when you’re battling brain fog or trying to power through a busy week.

Stuck on a complex reading? Get a summary in seconds. Need a hand drafting a cover letter or nailing the tone of your writing? Sorted. Want help prepping for a class debate or group project? It can do that too – not bad, hey?

Even some lecturers are jumping on board. A couple of them I’ve heard have mentioned using AI to help plan content or generate practice questions. The thinking is: AI’s not going anywhere, so we might as well learn how to use it properly – instead of pretending it doesn’t exist.

🚫 The Dodgy: When It Crosses the Line

Here’s where it gets a bit murky. There’s a difference between using AI to assist with learning and using it to replace your own thinking. When students start plugging entire assignment briefs into ChatGPT and handing it in without a second glance – that’s where the line gets crossed.

TurnItIn and other platforms now include AI-detection features, but let’s be honest, they’re not flawless. They can flag students who’ve done the right thing, and let others slip through. It’s all a bit of a grey zone, and most unis (including ours) are still figuring it out.

It also raises fair questions: If you use AI to help shape your ideas, do you need to reference it? If your mate uses it for everything and doesn’t get caught, what message does that send? And what if English isn’t your first language – does banning AI hurt more than help?

Ethics, transparency, and a bit of common sense are more important than ever.

🤯 The Weird: Is It Helping Us Think… or Taking Over?

Here’s a spicy one – is AI helping us become sharper thinkers, or just making us lazier?

On one hand, it can take the boring bits off your plate so you can focus on deeper thinking. It’s handy for grammar tweaks, summarising texts, or getting unstuck when you hit a wall. But on the flip side, if you’re using it to write whole essays or do your readings for you… are you really learning anything?

And group assignments? Don’t get me started. I’ve seen teams where one person whacks the whole task into ChatGPT, spits out the results, and calls it “collaboration.” Kinda defeats the point, doesn’t it?

What about standing out? If everyone is now using AI, how do you even stand out and showcase your creativity when we are all using the same, or similar language models to come up with our submissions?

📚 What’s the University industry Doing About It?

To be fair, the university isn’t pretending this isn’t a thing. Faculty heads have started talking seriously about revamping assessments – think more in-person presentations, creative projects, and reflective tasks where AI can’t do the thinking for you.

Some departments, have already hosted panels and workshops on AI literacy -helping students understand how to use these tools ethically and responsibly.

And word on the street is that a formal UniMelb policy around AI use in assessments is on the way. Not a full ban, but more about setting clear expectations and giving students the know-how to navigate this new landscape.

Because, let’s face it – trying to ban AI altogether in 2025 is like trying to ban Google in 2010. It’s just not realistic. People will always find a way around it. So it’s better to regulate it and be clear with the expectations of using it.

🧭 So, Where To From Here?

Chances are, in a few years, using AI will be as normal as referencing or checking your online learning portal. But how we use it now will shape that future.

The most switched-on students I know aren’t just using AI to cut corners – they’re using it to work smarter. Not to avoid thinking, but to enhance it. To save time on admin, polish their work, and invest more energy into real problem-solving.

Because AI isn’t going to replace uni – but it will change it. And the students who know how to adapt will be the ones who come out ahead.

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Dec 26 2024
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Why Modern Dating Is Turning Women Bitter – And How to Break Free

In the chaos of today’s dating landscape, something insidious is happening to women. Exposure to subpar partners and a saturated dating market is leaving many jaded, cynical, and emotionally closed off. It’s not just about bad dates or heartbreak—it’s about how the environment shapes perceptions, expectations, and even the questions women ask potential spouses.

Take a South Asian woman, for example. If her dating experiences repeatedly involve men who can’t cook or manage basic household tasks, she might conclude that all South Asian men are useless in the kitchen. But is that the reality? Or is it simply the by-product of her limited exposure to men who lack these skills? Unfortunately, this negativity often spills over, unfairly tainting her view of future partners.

Let’s delve into how the modern dating market is turning women bitter, the role their surroundings play, and how they can reclaim a more positive, open-minded approach to love.

The Dating Market: A Perfect Storm of Disappointment

The modern dating scene is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, apps provide access to countless potential matches. On the other, this abundance creates analysis paralysis and encourages disposability.

For women, this often means wading through a sea of emotionally unavailable, non-committal, or poorly equipped men. Over time, these repeated encounters build a pattern—a self-reinforcing feedback loop of negativity.

Imagine a woman who’s dated several men who lean on their mothers to do their laundry, struggle with ambition, or are commitment-phobic. It’s easy to see how she might assume these traits apply universally, especially within her own cultural or social group. But here’s the catch: these patterns are often shaped by her specific environment, not by some inherent truth about men.

How Generalisations Become a Defence Mechanism

Personal experience quickly morphs into broad generalisations. A woman let down by a selfish partner might decide that all men are emotionally incapable. Another, fed up with men who can’t boil an egg, might conclude that domestic ineptitude is part of the Y chromosome.

While these assumptions may feel protective, they’re also limiting. They act as a defence mechanism, shielding women from further hurt but also blinding them to new possibilities.

Worse still, this negativity often manifests in the questions women pose to potential partners. Questions like, “Can you even cook?” or, “Do you expect your wife to clean up after you?” aren’t just practical inquiries—they’re rooted in mistrust, assumptions, and past disappointments. Instead of fostering meaningful dialogue, they test and trap.

The Influence of Environment and Exposure

The role of environment cannot be overstated. Women who grow up or operate within communities dominated by low-quality partners will naturally internalise those norms. For instance, Asian women in more conservative circles might meet men who’ve been coddled by their families and never had to fend for themselves.

This narrow exposure reinforces stereotypes, creating a belief system that becomes difficult to shake. When these women encounter a man who defies the stereotype—one who’s independent, ambitious, and thoughtful—they often view him with suspicion rather than appreciation.

The phrase, “You’re not like the others,” might seem flattering, but it’s often a backhanded compliment laced with doubt.

How Negativity Shapes Expectations

The result is a jaded woman—someone whose experiences have sharpened her instincts but dulled her openness. Her past disappointments create a lens through which she views new relationships, and while it protects her from repeating mistakes, it also prevents her from building genuine connections.

Ironically, this scepticism can sabotage even the relationships she hopes to nurture. The man who patiently answers her rapid-fire questions about domestic skills may eventually tire of being treated like a potential failure before he’s even had a chance to prove himself.

Breaking the Cycle of Bitterness

So, how can women break free from this cycle? The solution lies in self-awareness, a willingness to challenge assumptions, and a commitment to personal growth.

  1. Recognise Your Biases: Understand that your past experiences don’t define universal truths. Not all men are like the ones you’ve dated.
  2. Expand Your Horizons: Seek out new social circles and environments. Exposure to a wider variety of people can challenge your beliefs and reshape your expectations.
  3. Reframe Your Questions: Instead of interrogating potential partners from a place of mistrust, ask open-ended questions that invite conversation. “What’s your favourite dish to cook?” is far more engaging than, “Do you even know how to cook?”
  4. Start Fresh with Each Interaction: Give new people the benefit of the doubt. Reserve scepticism for when it’s truly warranted.
  5. Work on Yourself: Dating isn’t just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the right person. Developing emotional resilience and shedding baggage can help you approach relationships with clarity and optimism.

Turning Bitterness into Opportunity

It’s easy to become bitter these days. But bitterness is a double-edged sword: it protects you from further hurt while also keeping you trapped in a cycle of mistrust.

Women must recognise that their experiences don’t dictate reality. By challenging their assumptions, broadening their exposure, and approaching relationships with a fresh perspective, they can break free from the negativity that holds them back. Yet it’s not that easy, women of this generation have their egos that is built up around them from their surroundings, and environment.

The dating world may be messy, but it doesn’t have to define you. After all, bitterness may feel like armour, but true growth comes from leaving your heart open—scarred, perhaps, but still capable of love.

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Nov 12 2024
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A Sign of a Good Relationship: No Trace of It on Social Media

Alright, gather round, social media groupies—let’s have a little chat, shall we? You know the drill. You’re scrolling through Instagram, trying to mind your own business, when BAM! Another nauseating couple photo floods your feed. She’s gazing at him like he’s Ryan Gosling and not some bloke who leaves the toilet seat up, while he’s captioned it with something like “Every day is Valentine’s Day with you, boo 😘”.

Honestly, if your relationship is so bloody fantastic, why do you need to convince us all? Here’s a hot take: maybe the sign of a good relationship is absolutely no trace of it on social media. Zero. Zilch. Nada.

Yes, I’m talking about that couple who’s happily loved up but doesn’t feel the need to plaster it all over your feed. Let’s break down why those who keep their relationships offline might actually be winning at this whole love game, while the rest of you are busy adding the perfect filter to your breakfast-in-bed photo.

1. Keeping It Between You, Your Partner, and Not a Single Other Soul

Let’s face it: your best moments aren’t the ones that make it to Instagram. The deep chats at 2 a.m., the lazy Sunday mornings in your mismatched pyjamas, the silly inside jokes that would get you a one-way ticket to a mental ward if you posted them—these are the moments that matter.

But no, you lot are too busy live-tweeting your date night or setting up your iPhone for that perfect couple selfie at the beach. God forbid you enjoy a moment without the approval of your 376 followers. Meanwhile, those in a genuinely happy relationship are busy doing something crazy: actually enjoying each other’s company without stopping for a quick Insta story update. Mind-blowing, I know.

2. The ‘Perfect Relationship’ Illusion You’re Selling? Yeah, We’re Not Buying It

We all know that social media is about as real as a Kardashian’s face. Yet, here you are, curating your couple’s feed like you’re up for a Pulitzer. All those smiley photos, sunset kisses, and perfectly posed shots? We see through it. We know you were probably bickering in the car park before snapping that “candid” shot.

The thing is, nobody’s buying it—except maybe that one aunt who always comments, “You two are #relationshipgoals 💖.” And here’s a fun fact: the couples who aren’t posting every bloody detail of their relationship? They’re not spending half their time performing happiness for an audience. They’re too busy, you know, actually living it.

3. Let’s Talk About the Peanut Gallery

Oh, but you love the attention, don’t you? Because once you put your relationship on social media, you’ve basically invited your old school mates, that creepy guy from accounting, and Susan from spin class into your relationship. And guess what? They all have an opinion on it.

“OMG, you guys are so cute!” “Aww, when’s the wedding?” “Is everything okay? Haven’t seen a couple post in a while…” Seriously, why do you care? Half these people wouldn’t recognise you in the street, yet you’re letting them weigh in on the most personal parts of your life. Meanwhile, those who keep their relationship offline? They don’t have to deal with a thousand unwelcome opinions. They’ve figured out that the only people whose thoughts actually matter are theirs. What a concept!

4. Being Present: Something You Lot Haven’t Heard Of

Remember the days when we could enjoy a meal without feeling the urge to photograph it from five different angles? Yeah, neither do you. And the same applies to your relationship. You’re out with your partner, but instead of actually talking to them, you’re both on your phones, trying to get the perfect shot of your avocado toast.

The irony here is thicker than your oat milk latte. Couples who don’t splash their relationship all over social media have a revolutionary approach: they actually pay attention to each other. They don’t need to prove to the world that they had a great time because they were too busy, you know, having one.

5. Secure, Confident, and Not Bothered with Your #CoupleGoals Hashtag

Look, I get it. You’ve been brainwashed by the social media machine to believe that if it isn’t online, it didn’t happen. But here’s the thing: just because someone isn’t posting about their partner every other day doesn’t mean they’re hiding something. Maybe they’re just secure enough not to need the dopamine rush of 100 likes every time they post a couples’ photo.

The couples who don’t overshare? They’re not keeping secrets; they’re just not interested in your opinions, Karen. They’ve figured out that their relationship isn’t a public spectacle, and they don’t need to update you on every little thing. When you’re genuinely happy, you’re not trying to prove it to anyone.

So, the next time you’re scrolling through Instagram, and you don’t see any evidence of your mate’s new partner, don’t assume they’re miserable. Maybe they’re just too busy enjoying a relationship that isn’t fuelled by validation from strangers on the internet.

But hey, keep doing you. Post that couple selfie. Just don’t be surprised when we’re all rolling our eyes.

Oct 28 2024
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Why Choosing a Chaste Woman Strengthens Your Marriage

In the labyrinth of modern relationships, there’s one trait in a woman that stands out as the most underrated yet potent force for enduring love: chastity. If you’re a man who believes in stability, loyalty, and a deeply bonded marriage, a chaste girlfriend or wife might just be your holy grail. In this post, we’ll explore why choosing a chaste woman could be one of the smartest moves you make as a man, covering how chastity ties directly to lower divorce and cheating risks and brings out the best in a relationship.

The Bond Is Real with a Chaste Woman

The internet is full of debates on “body count,” but why does it matter? Let’s talk about pair bonding. It’s a natural process where two people come together and develop a deep, enduring attachment. The fewer partners a woman has had, the more intact her ability to pair bond with her man.

A chaste woman, or one with a low number of past partners, carries the clear psychological advantage of not being imprinted by multiple men. With fewer past attachments, she’s more likely to create a strong bond with her husband and avoid comparing him to previous partners. This leads to lower risks of infidelity, as she hasn’t “trained” herself to move on from one relationship to the next. Her commitment is sincere, and she’s invested for the long run.

Reduced Divorce Risk: The Numbers Don’t Lie

When it comes to marriage longevity, data has a lot to say. Studies consistently find that women with fewer past partners are less likely to end up in divorce. Chastity isn’t just an old-fashioned virtue—it’s a statistically backed advantage. Why? Because past relationships shape us, for better or worse. The baggage from multiple relationships affects how one views and approaches conflict, compromise, and intimacy within a marriage.

In a practical sense, a chaste woman is less likely to carry toxic memories or learned bitterness from numerous failed relationships. She enters marriage with fewer emotional scars, which means fewer unresolved issues to project onto her spouse. For men, this translates to a smoother marriage where you’re less likely to end up in costly, soul-draining divorces.

Cheating Is a Slimmer Shadow on Her Horizon

It’s a hard pill for modern men to swallow, but research supports that a woman’s number of past partners correlates with her likelihood to stray. A chaste woman has had less exposure to the impulsive pleasures of fleeting intimacy, so she values a committed relationship as a foundation for real, profound love.

Women with a history of multiple partners, on the other hand, may be more likely to view infidelity as a solution to relationship dissatisfaction. The logic follows that if she’s had to “upgrade” her partners before, she’ll be more prone to considering it again. The longer she’s remained faithful to a single man, the more likely she is to stay faithful. It’s almost mathematical.

She’s More Likely to Bring Out Your Masculinity

Women who practise chastity or have conservative values often have a more traditional outlook on relationships. In a world that criticises masculinity, this type of woman is a rare find. She understands the beauty of complementary dynamics in a relationship, where both partners play distinct but harmonious roles. A chaste woman is less inclined to compete with her man or undermine his masculinity; instead, she appreciates and even encourages it.

Being with a chaste woman allows a man to fully express his masculinity without guilt or restraint. There’s no second-guessing, no manipulation games, just a mutual recognition of roles. A chaste woman brings balance to a relationship in ways that strengthen the bond, without tearing down either partner’s unique essence.

You Know She’s Committed to Building a Legacy

In an era where “forever” seems outdated, a chaste woman brings refreshing stability. She likely values family, loyalty, and commitment over the temporary thrills of hookup culture. For a man looking to create a lasting legacy—a family, a marriage that outlives the honeymoon phase—a chaste wife is a powerful partner.

She understands that true happiness in life doesn’t come from a string of casual flings but from investing in a meaningful, lasting partnership. Her values act as a safeguard for your shared future, creating a marriage that is deeper, richer, and more resilient against the temptations of the modern world.

In the End, a Chaste Woman Is the Ultimate Investment

The world understands that a woman’s chastity isn’t just about physical purity; it’s about mindset. Chastity symbolises a commitment to values that make a relationship not just survive but thrive. Men of today seek loyalty, devotion, and a drama-free life. And while no woman is perfect, a chaste woman comes close to embodying these ideals.

Ultimately, a chaste woman is like a fortress for a man’s heart—a fortress that shields him from the storms of divorce, the sting of infidelity, and the corrosive effects of shallow relationships. In a society that pressures women to prioritise experience over commitment, the chaste woman stands as a unique bastion of loyalty and integrity. She’s a choice that’s both wise and rare, a partner worth valuing, and an investment worth making.

Dec 23 2023
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Ladder Theory: Climbing through the rungs

In the quirky world of relationships, enter the ladder theory, a conceptual framework that attempts to decipher the intricate dance between men and women. Picture this: two ladders standing side by side, one labeled “Friendship” and the other adorned with the sparkly sign of “Romance and Attraction.” It’s like a game of Chutes and Ladders, but with emotions and potential awkward encounters.

For the dashing gents, the ladder theory proposes that men are natural ladder categorizers, neatly placing women on either the friend ladder or the romantic/sexual ladder. It’s a binary world, or so the theory suggests, where the transition from buddy to potential soulmate is akin to navigating a labyrinth without a map. Men, it seems, find it challenging to shuffle a lady from one ladder to the other without feeling like they’ve entered relationship limbo.

Let’s dive into an illustrative scenario: Meet Jack, a chap who shares witty banter and late-night talks about life with Jill. They climb the friend ladder together, but Jack can’t quite figure out how to swing open the trapdoor to the romantic rungs. In the ladder theory’s world, Jack might be left scratching his head, wondering why Jill seems to be stuck on the friendship floor.

Now, on the flip side, the theory suggests that women possess a ladder agility that would make any gymnast envious. For the ladies, it’s not a rigid binary but more of a ladder mashup, where a man can occupy various rungs on both the friendship and romantic ladders simultaneously. Confusing? A tad. Dynamic? Absolutely.

Consider Sarah, who shares laughs and intellectual debates with Mike. According to the ladder theory, Sarah can seamlessly switch between appreciating Mike’s sense of humor on the friendship ladder and entertaining romantic inklings on the adjacent rungs. It’s like she’s doing a relational salsa dance, effortlessly twirling between connection types.

However, before we embrace the ladder theory as the relationship gospel, let’s throw in a sprinkle of skepticism. Critics argue that this ladder-based classification system oversimplifies the complexities of human connections. Love, after all, doesn’t fit neatly into categories; it’s messy, unpredictable, and wonderfully chaotic.

So, while the ladder theory offers a whimsical lens to view the romantic landscape, it’s essential to remember that relationships are as diverse as a box of assorted chocolates. Each connection is unique, defying the constraints of ladders and challenging us to embrace the delightful unpredictability of human emotions. After all, who needs rigid rungs when you can pirouette through the dance of love with a touch of wit and a charming smile?

Sep 29 2023
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Everyday battles: The Battle with Dick


A classic post by LaidNYC:

I’m hanging out on my couch with Dick when my phone buzzes with a new text message.

“Hey I’m gonna be in the city on the 27th are you free for a drink?”

Cheryl.  I met her at a bar near Penn Station playing darts, took her home that night for a pleasure pumping and now she tells me whenever she’s in the city on business so we can hook up.  She has the best natural breasts that I’ve personally felt and she has a certain enthusiasm between the sheets since I’m her secret New York City bang.  It’s good to be the king.

Dick perks up.  Only there’s a problem, I tell him.  This time I have a girlfriend.

Problem, asks Dick, what problem?  You can cheat.

Yeah.  I could.  I could cheat.

Dick spurs me on, Yeah, the 27th is perfect.  It’s a Thursday.  Tell her you’re gonna go out with Mike drinking. She’ll go to her parents house for the night like she always does when you’re out with your friends.  No problem.

Of course I can avoid getting caught.  I’m not an idiot.  It’s not about that.

Dick is confused.  He softens a bit at the lack of shared enthusiasm. Then….what?  This is free pussy.  What you feel guilty or something?

No. Remember that episode of Jerry Springer we watched where the guy named Jameer cheated on his whole-lotta-woman girlfriend Darhonda. We laughed for two minutes straight when she managed to get a good slap in.  What a dumbass he was.

Yeah, that was hilarious.  So what?

Well if I do this I am no better than Jameer.  Sure, neither of MY girls are fat, but the principle is the same:  If I cheat I will be low class trashy scum.

You have a job and wear a belt you’re already above that class.  Besides, the president of France cheated.  Bill Clinton cheated.  You think those guys are lower class than you?

You know what I mean.

Do I?

Alright think about this.  Let’s say she does find out somehow.  She might leave.  I like her.  I’d rather it not end this way.

You know you’d play it right so she wouldn’t leave you. She’d be MORE attracted to you.  Its simple preselection and dread game.  Haven’t you learned anything?

So I’ll just vaguely flirt with a girl at the next party we go to.  I don’t need to actually fuck someone else to have preselection for fucks sake.  Integrity, Dick.  Men have integrity.  When I expect loyalty, I give it.

Fuck that, it is a capital felony when women cheat.  When men cheat, it is a misdemeanor, like pissing in an alleyway.  You know this.  They know this.  Besides, girls are sluts.  How long have you been dating her, six months?  You haven’t even hacked her email yet.  What if shes cheating on you?

If she ends up being a cheating slut, I’ll cross that bridge when I get there, but this is about me.  It’s about who I want to be.  I’m not a cheater.  Being a player is fine, at least you’re not lying to anybody.  I can always go back to that life.  But being a cheater is something else.  Besides, she’s at least a full point prettier than Cheryl.

Yeah, but her tits aren’t as nice.  And her blowjobs aren’t as good.

Yeah, well she hasn’t had as much practice as Cheryl.  I’m only the second guy she’s slept with.

So she says.

Yeah… so she says.

Dick knows he has hit a nerve.  He squints at me, still excited.  He keeps talking about Cheryl’s immaculate rack and how the girlfriend will never know.  I may have to choke him to get him to shut up.

My phone buzzes again, this time with a new GChat from my girlfriend: “I miss you more than usual today”.
I swipe back to my texts.  I delete Cheryl’s text and phone number hurriedly before I change my mind.  Dick has been defeated.  This time.
Jun 27 2023
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Classic, Culture, Informational, Straight talk

“I’m too old for casual”

The above is something we hear too often. Weather it’s on dating apps, public transport, or at restaurants. It’s usually used by women, most commonly ones that are above the age of 30.

So what does it really mean?

There’s numerous schools of thought on this. On one hand, die hard feminists, and lefists will push you to believe that the woman is now ready for a long term relationship due to her maturity.

The other angle is.. she’s ridden a ton of bad boys all throughout her prime years and now is settling down since she knows a) Her time is running out and b) The quality of guy she can nab now is far lower than before.

But also, its an admission, an admission that the woman probably casually rode random men throughout when she was younger, tighter and hotter. They got the goods without any commitment, you sir, you get the used goods with full commitment.

Does it really mean that they aren’t going to spread their legs? Look, when you’ve been brought up to normalise casual bangs as part of your existence (e.g. Most Western women) its hard to let old habits die hard. The reality is, if you turn them on enough, you’ll likely to get them to spread their legs. They’ll rationalise it and regret it afterwards but as usual, not matter how old they are it’s a learning experience.

So next time you hear a girl saying she’s “too old for casual” just know you’re talking to a girl whose given up her best years to guys that got between her legs without any commitment, and is now looking for a parachute ahead of the freefall journey that awaits her sexual market value.

Apr 10 2023
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Classic, Culture

Why have kids?

You could be the spitting image of your father, and grandfathers. Similar build, same eyes, same cheekbones. Inheriting several of his hobbies and dispositions could also come with the pass downs.

Your great grandfather and grandfather could also be dead and dead for a long while you could never know them

It is by sheer chance that those genes influenced you more than anyone else in your lineage, but here you are. Here he is. You are him. His conscious mind is dead. He is not.

Be proud of your genetics. They are not perfect, but you have several enviable qualities. It’s because of these qualities that centuries ago, men with your genes fought for resources, status and women and were successful. Today, using their genes, you are becoming successful as well.

See, don’t think having kids is the ultimate measure of a man. It is the consequence of, not the driver of hedonistic desire. Men haven’t evolved baby rabies like women. However, some of us have healthy K-selected instincts to want to have and provide for our own spawn. There is something natural about it. It is due to these instincts that many would surely feel regret if they never became a father.

You see, too often this debate is black and white. There are sworn bachelors claiming anyone who marries and has kids is an idiot, and there are righteous family men claiming anyone who doesn’t pass his genes on isn’t a true man. People make their choice, then to make peace with their choice, they claim that it wasn’t a choice at all and anyone who claims otherwise is stupid.

Truth is, both sides are right and wrong.

I can’t argue with a guy who chooses to run free in an easy-sex society rather than settle down in the burdensome responsibility of providing for a wife and kids with a legal system stacked against him.

I can’t argue with a guy who wants to build a legacy and pass his accumulated knowledge and wealth to a genetic lineage of his own flesh and blood.

The men who crusade against having kids make great points. They are right, it is a huge risk and sacrifice. For many men, it is probably not a good choice. However, to those of us with K-selected instincts, NOT having kids would also be a sacrifice.

Life always contains trade-offs, evaluate your desires accordingly

Nov 28 2022
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Classic

The BS of Closure

A classic post that every man should read.

Closure Is BS

As a man, you don’t need closure.

A girl either wants to bang you or she doesn’t. A long, emotional conversation will not change this fact.

Girls, however, need to put a man they are dumping into a desexualized box and wrap a pretty bow of closure around it. By participating in the closure process, you are helping her tie the bow around your desexualized fate.

If a girl breaks up with you:
Do not talk about your feelings
Do not talk about her feelings
Do not argue with her reasons
Just accept it and grieve on your own time.

This is hard.

Why?

Because a woman will never give her ACTUAL reasons for breaking up with you. She will only give you society-approved bullshit that makes her look innocent.

She will never say “you didn’t screw me good enough” or “you’re too nice and not exciting” or “no other girl I know wants to fuck you so something must be wrong with you”.

She will say “I’m really busy with school and work and don’t have time for a relationship now” or “you’re great but I’m not ready for anything serious” or “I care about you as a friend”.

Sometimes the reasons she gives will be SO false, such obvious flowery bullshit, that you will feel a deep burning need to set her straight, to correct her misunderstanding.

Don’t.

You can’t logic a woman.

You can say “Ok”, walk away with a smirk and never contact her again.
Being robbed of emotionally dripping closure, she’ll always feel a little incomplete.

Why didn’t he fight harder for me?
Did I really not get to his emotions?
Am I not as desirable to him as I thought?
Is he more desirable than I thought?

Girls have egos. They WANT to know you’re emotional about her breaking up with you. It validates her. So don’t do it.
You want a girl dumping you to question her reasons, not verify them.

When a girl dumps you, you want to be able to look back on how your handled it with pride.
When you give a girl closure, you give her your pride.

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