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Dec 09 2025
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When Desire Meets Power: What Footballers Reveal About Men

Footballers live close to the edge of human experience. Wealth arrives early. Fame follows quickly. Attention becomes constant. To observe their lives is to ask a deeper question about human nature itself: what happens to desire when nothing stands in its way?

Modern footballers often sit at the intersection of money, beauty, status and opportunity. They inhabit a world where doors open without asking, where messages flood in without effort, and where temptation is neither distant nor abstract. It is present, persistent and often consequence-free. Many live double lives. Some form families while maintaining parallel relationships. Others avoid commitment entirely, choosing novelty as a permanent lifestyle. This pattern is so common that rarity now belongs to restraint.

This is not merely tabloid material. It is a philosophical question about limits.

Most men are shaped by scarcity. Not just financial scarcity, but emotional and relational scarcity. Desire exists, but it is narrowed by fear. Fear of loss. Fear of humiliation. Fear of consequences. For the average man, morality is reinforced by risk. Behaviour is disciplined by what might be taken away.

Footballers exist in a different psychological economy. The traditional risks lose their sting. Financial loss is relative. Reputation can be repaired. Families fractured by scandal rarely threaten their ability to live comfortably. In that environment, moral behaviour is no longer enforced by consequence. It becomes, if anything, a choice rather than a necessity.

This forces an uncomfortable shift in perspective. Perhaps footballers are not exceptional in their flaws, but unusually honest in their exposure. They are men without the usual filters. Men whose inner impulses are no longer hidden by practical restraints.

There is an old philosophical tension between freedom and virtue. Is morality meaningful if it depends on fear? If a man behaves well only because punishment is possible, is he virtuous or merely cautious? Footballers test this idea in real time. When punishment weakens, many do not become better men. They become more transparent men.

Celebrity culture intensifies this. Musicians, actors, influencers and athletes share similar behavioural patterns. Multiple partners. Secret relationships. Chaotic personal lives. Substance abuse. The pattern is too consistent to treat as coincidence. Power does not invent vice. It removes silence from it.

And yet, these men are not entirely free. Every movement is watched. Every mistake is documented. Their lives unfold under constant surveillance. Publicly they are controlled, sanitised, curated. Privately they live with a form of insulation. The same fame that exposes them also protects them. The same wealth that attracts attention absorbs impact.

This creates a paradox. They are both trapped and untethered. Watched by millions, yet constrained by almost nothing that governs ordinary life.

The uncomfortable possibility is not that footballers are morally inferior. It is that they represent an unvarnished version of something ordinary. What most men might become if the brakes were removed. If money was irrelevant. If rejection disappeared. If admiration was guaranteed. If temptation was constant and costless.

It is easy to feel superior from a safe distance. To moralise about loyalty, restraint and dignity. But distance is comfort. Philosophy asks for honesty. Would the average man, handed limitless attention, physical validation and luxury, suddenly become more disciplined? Or would he simply become more visible in his flaws?

The idea that fame corrupts may be too simple. It may not corrupt at all. It may reveal. It may expose what was always present but safely hidden behind fear, lack and limitation.

Some men, even then, would choose discipline. They would build quiet lives. They would resist chaos. But perhaps they are not the majority. Perhaps they never were.

Footballers do not distort human nature. They magnify it.

And that is why their lives make us uncomfortable. Not because they are alien. But because they are familiar in ways we would rather not admit.

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Sep 28 2025
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Melbourne vs Sydney Uni Life: What No One Tells You

Today’s post is a Guest Post from a reader, which I thought would be worth sharing.

When I was weighing up whether to study in Melbourne or Sydney, I assumed the choice would be all about rankings, glossy brochures, and which city looked better on Instagram. Both are global cities. Both have beaches (yes, Melbourne technically does, but you’ll hear the debate about St Kilda beach until the end of time). Both have big universities with sprawling campuses.

What I didn’t realise is that your uni city isn’t just where you go to class. It becomes your environment, your community, your backdrop for some of the most formative years of your life. The little details, rent prices, weather, the way people talk to each other on public transport matter more than you think. They shape how you feel, who you meet, and even how you grow.

I’ve studied in Melbourne, but I’ve spent a fair amount of time with friends in Sydney, swapping stories and living in each other’s worlds for short bursts. Comparing the two has been eye-opening, and what I’ve learned is that the differences aren’t just surface-level.

So, here it is. No sugar-coating, no PR spin. The costs, the culture, the good, the bad, and the in-between. This is what no one tells you about Melbourne vs Sydney uni life.

The Brutal Reality of Costs

Sydney is expensive. Painfully so. It’s the kind of expensive where you’ll scroll through rental listings and wonder if a windowless cupboard counts as a “studio apartment.” If you want to live anywhere remotely close to the city or eastern suburbs, be prepared to pour most of your paycheck into rent.

I stayed with a mate in Sydney who was paying nearly $400 a week for her half of a shoebox apartment in Glebe. My rent in Melbourne? Half that, with an actual living room and a kitchen where you could open the fridge without smacking into the wall.

Melbourne is hardly cheap, but it’s manageable. You can live in a share house within tram distance of the city without needing three side hustles. Groceries are about the same, but eating out feels less punishing. There are hidden gems – dumpling spots in Chinatown, $12 laksa in the CBD, Vietnamese rolls in Footscray, where you can get full without your bank account crying.

Sydney does offer higher casual wages, especially in hospitality, and there’s more demand for casual staff. My Sydney friends working in cafes or retail definitely earn more per hour than I did in Melbourne. But the problem is, it all gets eaten up by rent anyway. You might make more, but you’ll also spend more just to exist.

Culture: The Invisible Divide

It’s hard to describe, but the cultural “feel” of the two cities is completely different. And this is where your uni experience shifts without you even noticing.

Melbourne is slower, but in the best way. It’s a city that rewards wandering. You’ll stumble into laneway cafes, watch a busker outside Flinders Street Station who’s actually pretty good, or end up at a pop-up art show because your mate dragged you along. Students spend hours sprawled on the South Lawn at Melbourne Uni, sipping coffee and arguing about politics like they’re auditioning for Q&A.

Sydney has this energy that feels almost electric. Everyone’s moving with purpose, even if they’re just heading to Woolies. The city runs on ambition. Students there are sharper, faster, and sometimes more competitive. It’s infectious; if you thrive on that hustle, you’ll find yourself running at a higher gear. But it can also be exhausting. There’s less space to just sit and breathe without feeling like you’re “falling behind.”

Melbourne students often joke that Sydney is “all show,” while Sydney students counter that Melbourne is “too smug.” There’s some truth to both. Sydney dazzles you with the harbour, the skyline, and the beaches. Melbourne wins you over slowly, with its art, food, and culture that creeps under your skin until you can’t imagine living anywhere else.

Uni Life: Two Different Worlds

Sydney’s unis feel bigger, flashier, and more hierarchical. Walk onto USyd’s sandstone campus and it feels like stepping into a movie set. It’s beautiful, but also intimidating. Societies are active and networking is everywhere. People dress sharper. There’s a quiet but noticeable divide between students who came from private schools and those who didn’t.

UNSW feels a little more “corporate” — future lawyers, engineers, consultants, all moving quickly toward their careers. It’s exciting, but it can feel transactional. My Sydney mates often mention the pressure: everyone’s already talking about grad roles in second year.

Melbourne unis, on the other hand, feel more laid back. Melbourne Uni still has its prestige, but the vibe is less cutthroat. Students sit on the grass with cheap coffee, debating ideas more than careers. RMIT has a practical, creative energy — you’ll see design students sketching on laptops next to engineering students with toolkits. Monash has its own insulated world out in Clayton, where you basically live on campus and the community becomes tight-knit.

The downside in Melbourne? Cliques form fast. Arts kids with arts kids, engineers with engineers. If you don’t make an effort to branch out, you might stay in your bubble.

The Vibe of Each City

Sydney wins hands down on natural beauty. Waking up near Coogee Beach or catching a ferry across the harbour before class feels like a movie scene. If you need water, sand, and sun to keep you sane, Sydney is unbeatable.

Melbourne, though, is built for students. It’s cheaper to get around, public transport actually works once you figure out Myki, and the city is crammed with cafes and libraries where you can study for hours without being told to move along. The weather is… chaotic, sure. Four seasons in one day isn’t a myth. But the cultural life makes up for it: free galleries, night markets, live music, and community events.

Sydney’s vibe can feel like “make it or break it.” Melbourne’s vibe feels like “find your people and grow with them.”

The Emotional Side

This is the part no one talks about when you’re 18 and just looking at glossy uni rankings. Your uni city doesn’t just shape your resume, it shapes your identity.

My Sydney friends are resilient. They’re ambitious, sharper, and quicker to grab opportunities. But they also talk about loneliness. Sydney is beautiful, but it can be isolating. Everyone’s busy. Everyone’s chasing something. If you fall behind, it feels like no one’s waiting for you.

Melbourne has given me space to breathe. It’s less about competition and more about connection. I’ve built friendships here that feel more like family. There are still moments where I wonder if I’ve missed out by not being in Sydney’s “big pond,” but I also know I’ve grown in ways I might not have if I were always running.

So, Which is Better?

The truth? Neither. It depends on who you are.

If you thrive in high energy, love beaches, and want to be surrounded by driven people who’ll push you, Sydney will shape you in ways Melbourne can’t. If you want community, culture, and the freedom to figure yourself out without constant pressure, Melbourne will feel like home.

Both cities will challenge you, both will change you. But the way they do it is different.

For me, Melbourne was the right choice. It taught me balance. It let me grow at my own pace. It gave me people who genuinely cared, not just contacts for LinkedIn. Still, when I sit by Sydney Harbour on a sunny day, I get it. I see the magic.

At the end of the day, it’s not about which city ranks higher or has prettier photos. It’s about whether you find your rhythm, your community, and a version of yourself you can be proud of. That’s what no one tells you when you’re making the decision. And maybe that’s something you only learn once you’ve lived it.

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Aug 27 2025
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Gym, Sports, and Staying Fit on a Student Budget in Melbourne

Trying to stay fit in Melbourne as a student isn’t exactly straightforward. Between rent, parking fines, and $7 oat lattes, a gym membership feels like a luxury. Letting your health slide isn’t the answer either. Being “young” doesn’t actually make you invincible, no matter what your 19-year-old metabolism once told you.

Here’s how to keep active in Melbourne without setting fire to your bank account, especially as a (broke) student

1. Uni Gyms: Cheap and Close Enough

Most universities have gyms located on or near their campuses. They’re not glamorous, but they’re cheap, and you don’t need glamour when you’re there to sweat, not film TikToks. At around $30 to $70 a month, it’s hard to argue.

Group classes are often included as well. Boxing, yoga, HIIT… if you’re hopeless at motivating yourself, having someone bark instructions at you for 45 minutes works wonders.

2. Outdoor Gyms: Free, Slightly Questionable, But Effective

Every second park in Melbourne seems to have outdoor gym equipment these days. It’s not going to make you look like Zyzz, but if you use the pull-up bars and dip stations properly, you’ll build strength. The gear might feel a bit flimsy, but the price tag makes it hard to complain.

3. Sports Clubs: Exercise That Doesn’t Feel Like Exercise

If you can’t stand the gym, join a sports club. Melbourne unis have everything from soccer to martial arts to ultimate frisbee (yes, it still exists). It’s exercise disguised as fun, and you’ll meet people who aren’t just stressing about the same assignments as you. Memberships are usually cheap, and the regular training schedule forces you to show up.

4. Walk More, Tram Less

If you’re jumping on the tram for two stops, you’re not saving time; you’re being lazy. Melbourne’s inner suburbs are ridiculously walkable. Walking to and from campus or between suburbs is free cardio. It also saves you from watching your Myki balance vanish every week.

5. Home Workouts: Aldi, Kmart, and Creativity

Kmart and Aldi occasionally stock weights, resistance bands, and yoga mats. Grab a couple and you’ve got yourself a DIY home gym. If you can’t afford even that, bodyweight workouts still do the trick. Push-ups, squats, planks… It’s not rocket science. Your housemates might laugh when you’re doing burpees in the lounge room, but they’ll be the ones wheezing after two flights of stairs.

6. Diet: Don’t Undo Your Work

You can’t train properly if you eat like rubbish. Bulk buy basics like rice, pasta, oats, frozen veg, and chicken when it’s on special. Throw in beans, lentils, and tinned tuna for cheap protein. It’s not glamorous, but your body won’t care.

And no, Uber Eats doesn’t count as meal prep.

Final Thoughts..

Melbourne is getting expensive, no arguments there. Staying fit doesn’t have to be. Use the uni gyms, make use of the outdoor equipment, join a club, walk more, and cook like an adult. None of it is complicated; it just requires consistency.

At the end of the day, your body doesn’t care if you trained at a flashy city gym or did push-ups in your bedroom. It just wants you to move, so you can avoid the freshman 15.

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Jul 14 2025
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They All Did OK – A Reflection on Where We Came From

A guest post from a Melbourne friend of mine whom I recently bumped into whilst travelling, we were reminiscing days back at University and despite coming from different parts of Melbourne and different backgrounds, we had a lot of similarities. Below is his post. Enjoy!

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A mate of mine recently went down a bit of a rabbit hole, stalking some of our old high school crew from back in Melbourne. I’ve never really been on social media, so I didn’t have much of a clue where most people had ended up. But I’ll admit, it was interesting. Eye-opening, even.

The overwhelming takeaway?
They all did OK.

Most of them, anyway.

From what he could piece together, the vast majority stayed in Melbourne. They’ve carved out reasonably stable lives, average jobs, a couple of nice cars floating around, weddings here and there, kids in the mix. A few have crossed that elusive median income mark, which, if you knew where they came from, would be seen as a win. These were the kids who grew up around Centrelink offices, corner milk bars that sold more ciggies than milk, and families where university wasn’t so much discouraged, it just wasn’t part of the conversation.

To see them now, doing alright, building lives, that’s something to be proud of.

Some got married early. Like, really early. Kids by 21. A few had families before they’d even had a proper go at figuring themselves out. Interestingly, those who went straight into TAFE or full-time work after Year 12 seemed to start families younger, while the university crowd generally waited a bit longer, maybe not by design, but more so a side effect of trying to hustle degrees, internships, and grad roles before thinking about nappies and school pick-ups.

But that’s not a criticism. In fact, it’s kind of fascinating how the path you take after high school shapes not just your career but your life timeline. The ones who knuckled down early: apprentices, trades, retail supervisors, they got a head start in adulting, while others were still trying to figure out their student HECS debt and how to do a proper meal prep.

There was a certain insularity that lingered with many of them, though. You can see it in the social media posts and the local check-ins. Most haven’t ventured too far beyond the radius of where they grew up. Same suburb, same mates, same rhythm. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. For a lot of people, that’s safety. That’s comfort. That’s community. But for me, there was always a quiet pull to break away from that, to see what else was out there, to rewrite the blueprint a little.

It’s worth acknowledging the reporting bias too. The ones who post the most on socials? They’re usually the ones who are doing well enough to want to show it off. The holidays to Asia, the car upgrades, the weddings with drone footage. But there were names I hadn’t heard in years, ones that didn’t show up in the digital highlight reel. A few had fallen into rough crowds, made some bad choices, got stuck in loops that are hard to break out of. No judgment, it could’ve been any of us, really. The margins are thin when you’re young, broke, and trying to find direction with no map.

And then there are the ghosts. The ones who, like me, just aren’t online. No Facebook status updates, no Instagram reels, nothing to like or react to. Not because they’re hiding, just because they’re living. Quietly. Privately. Maybe they’ve outgrown the need for that constant performance. Maybe they’ve learned that fulfilment doesn’t need an audience. I can relate to that.

Looking back, I can’t help but feel a bit of pride, not just for what I’ve done, but for all of us. For coming from a background where we were surrounded by distractions and dead-ends, and still managing to find something that resembles stability. Some of us took longer. Some got there quicker. Some are still on the journey. But in a world that often reduces success to job titles and house prices, it’s important to remember that for some people, just getting through is a win.

For me, the need to hustle was always there, part internal drive, part external pressure. I didn’t want the default path. I didn’t want to be the guy who peaked in Year 12 or never left the west. I wanted more, even when I didn’t know exactly what “more” looked like. So, I moved, I studied, I worked, I took risks. Gratefully, I’ve been fortunate enough to find some sense of purpose and direction, even if the path wasn’t always clear.

But here’s the thing: I don’t think I’m better than anyone. Just different. And in many ways, I owe a lot to those who stayed, to those who reminded me of what I left behind, and why. Their stories ground me. They remind me not to take anything for granted.

It’s also a lesson in not romanticising the past too much. Our teenage years were messy, confusing, sometimes beautiful but often brutal. A lot of us were just trying to survive in our own ways, through humour, bravado, sport, study, or silence. We didn’t have therapists or TikTok wellness advice. We had each other, skipping class and going to the local shopping centre, playing console and computer games after school and the usual joys of adolescence that come with that era.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from all of this, it’s that life’s not a race. The paths we take are as varied as the reasons behind them. Some of us sprint, some crawl, some double back and start again. And some just stay put… and that’s OK too.

So, here’s to the quiet wins.
To the ones raising families with love and patience.
To the ones holding down jobs and paying off mortgages.
To the ones who might’ve stumbled but kept getting back up.
To the ones who never made it online..but still made it somewhere.

They all did OK.
And who knows, maybe I did too?

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Nov 12 2024
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A Sign of a Good Relationship: No Trace of It on Social Media

Alright, gather round, social media groupies—let’s have a little chat, shall we? You know the drill. You’re scrolling through Instagram, trying to mind your own business, when BAM! Another nauseating couple photo floods your feed. She’s gazing at him like he’s Ryan Gosling and not some bloke who leaves the toilet seat up, while he’s captioned it with something like “Every day is Valentine’s Day with you, boo 😘”.

Honestly, if your relationship is so bloody fantastic, why do you need to convince us all? Here’s a hot take: maybe the sign of a good relationship is absolutely no trace of it on social media. Zero. Zilch. Nada.

Yes, I’m talking about that couple who’s happily loved up but doesn’t feel the need to plaster it all over your feed. Let’s break down why those who keep their relationships offline might actually be winning at this whole love game, while the rest of you are busy adding the perfect filter to your breakfast-in-bed photo.

1. Keeping It Between You, Your Partner, and Not a Single Other Soul

Let’s face it: your best moments aren’t the ones that make it to Instagram. The deep chats at 2 a.m., the lazy Sunday mornings in your mismatched pyjamas, the silly inside jokes that would get you a one-way ticket to a mental ward if you posted them—these are the moments that matter.

But no, you lot are too busy live-tweeting your date night or setting up your iPhone for that perfect couple selfie at the beach. God forbid you enjoy a moment without the approval of your 376 followers. Meanwhile, those in a genuinely happy relationship are busy doing something crazy: actually enjoying each other’s company without stopping for a quick Insta story update. Mind-blowing, I know.

2. The ‘Perfect Relationship’ Illusion You’re Selling? Yeah, We’re Not Buying It

We all know that social media is about as real as a Kardashian’s face. Yet, here you are, curating your couple’s feed like you’re up for a Pulitzer. All those smiley photos, sunset kisses, and perfectly posed shots? We see through it. We know you were probably bickering in the car park before snapping that “candid” shot.

The thing is, nobody’s buying it—except maybe that one aunt who always comments, “You two are #relationshipgoals 💖.” And here’s a fun fact: the couples who aren’t posting every bloody detail of their relationship? They’re not spending half their time performing happiness for an audience. They’re too busy, you know, actually living it.

3. Let’s Talk About the Peanut Gallery

Oh, but you love the attention, don’t you? Because once you put your relationship on social media, you’ve basically invited your old school mates, that creepy guy from accounting, and Susan from spin class into your relationship. And guess what? They all have an opinion on it.

“OMG, you guys are so cute!” “Aww, when’s the wedding?” “Is everything okay? Haven’t seen a couple post in a while…” Seriously, why do you care? Half these people wouldn’t recognise you in the street, yet you’re letting them weigh in on the most personal parts of your life. Meanwhile, those who keep their relationship offline? They don’t have to deal with a thousand unwelcome opinions. They’ve figured out that the only people whose thoughts actually matter are theirs. What a concept!

4. Being Present: Something You Lot Haven’t Heard Of

Remember the days when we could enjoy a meal without feeling the urge to photograph it from five different angles? Yeah, neither do you. And the same applies to your relationship. You’re out with your partner, but instead of actually talking to them, you’re both on your phones, trying to get the perfect shot of your avocado toast.

The irony here is thicker than your oat milk latte. Couples who don’t splash their relationship all over social media have a revolutionary approach: they actually pay attention to each other. They don’t need to prove to the world that they had a great time because they were too busy, you know, having one.

5. Secure, Confident, and Not Bothered with Your #CoupleGoals Hashtag

Look, I get it. You’ve been brainwashed by the social media machine to believe that if it isn’t online, it didn’t happen. But here’s the thing: just because someone isn’t posting about their partner every other day doesn’t mean they’re hiding something. Maybe they’re just secure enough not to need the dopamine rush of 100 likes every time they post a couples’ photo.

The couples who don’t overshare? They’re not keeping secrets; they’re just not interested in your opinions, Karen. They’ve figured out that their relationship isn’t a public spectacle, and they don’t need to update you on every little thing. When you’re genuinely happy, you’re not trying to prove it to anyone.

So, the next time you’re scrolling through Instagram, and you don’t see any evidence of your mate’s new partner, don’t assume they’re miserable. Maybe they’re just too busy enjoying a relationship that isn’t fuelled by validation from strangers on the internet.

But hey, keep doing you. Post that couple selfie. Just don’t be surprised when we’re all rolling our eyes.

Oct 28 2024
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Why Choosing a Chaste Woman Strengthens Your Marriage

In the labyrinth of modern relationships, there’s one trait in a woman that stands out as the most underrated yet potent force for enduring love: chastity. If you’re a man who believes in stability, loyalty, and a deeply bonded marriage, a chaste girlfriend or wife might just be your holy grail. In this post, we’ll explore why choosing a chaste woman could be one of the smartest moves you make as a man, covering how chastity ties directly to lower divorce and cheating risks and brings out the best in a relationship.

The Bond Is Real with a Chaste Woman

The internet is full of debates on “body count,” but why does it matter? Let’s talk about pair bonding. It’s a natural process where two people come together and develop a deep, enduring attachment. The fewer partners a woman has had, the more intact her ability to pair bond with her man.

A chaste woman, or one with a low number of past partners, carries the clear psychological advantage of not being imprinted by multiple men. With fewer past attachments, she’s more likely to create a strong bond with her husband and avoid comparing him to previous partners. This leads to lower risks of infidelity, as she hasn’t “trained” herself to move on from one relationship to the next. Her commitment is sincere, and she’s invested for the long run.

Reduced Divorce Risk: The Numbers Don’t Lie

When it comes to marriage longevity, data has a lot to say. Studies consistently find that women with fewer past partners are less likely to end up in divorce. Chastity isn’t just an old-fashioned virtue—it’s a statistically backed advantage. Why? Because past relationships shape us, for better or worse. The baggage from multiple relationships affects how one views and approaches conflict, compromise, and intimacy within a marriage.

In a practical sense, a chaste woman is less likely to carry toxic memories or learned bitterness from numerous failed relationships. She enters marriage with fewer emotional scars, which means fewer unresolved issues to project onto her spouse. For men, this translates to a smoother marriage where you’re less likely to end up in costly, soul-draining divorces.

Cheating Is a Slimmer Shadow on Her Horizon

It’s a hard pill for modern men to swallow, but research supports that a woman’s number of past partners correlates with her likelihood to stray. A chaste woman has had less exposure to the impulsive pleasures of fleeting intimacy, so she values a committed relationship as a foundation for real, profound love.

Women with a history of multiple partners, on the other hand, may be more likely to view infidelity as a solution to relationship dissatisfaction. The logic follows that if she’s had to “upgrade” her partners before, she’ll be more prone to considering it again. The longer she’s remained faithful to a single man, the more likely she is to stay faithful. It’s almost mathematical.

She’s More Likely to Bring Out Your Masculinity

Women who practise chastity or have conservative values often have a more traditional outlook on relationships. In a world that criticises masculinity, this type of woman is a rare find. She understands the beauty of complementary dynamics in a relationship, where both partners play distinct but harmonious roles. A chaste woman is less inclined to compete with her man or undermine his masculinity; instead, she appreciates and even encourages it.

Being with a chaste woman allows a man to fully express his masculinity without guilt or restraint. There’s no second-guessing, no manipulation games, just a mutual recognition of roles. A chaste woman brings balance to a relationship in ways that strengthen the bond, without tearing down either partner’s unique essence.

You Know She’s Committed to Building a Legacy

In an era where “forever” seems outdated, a chaste woman brings refreshing stability. She likely values family, loyalty, and commitment over the temporary thrills of hookup culture. For a man looking to create a lasting legacy—a family, a marriage that outlives the honeymoon phase—a chaste wife is a powerful partner.

She understands that true happiness in life doesn’t come from a string of casual flings but from investing in a meaningful, lasting partnership. Her values act as a safeguard for your shared future, creating a marriage that is deeper, richer, and more resilient against the temptations of the modern world.

In the End, a Chaste Woman Is the Ultimate Investment

The world understands that a woman’s chastity isn’t just about physical purity; it’s about mindset. Chastity symbolises a commitment to values that make a relationship not just survive but thrive. Men of today seek loyalty, devotion, and a drama-free life. And while no woman is perfect, a chaste woman comes close to embodying these ideals.

Ultimately, a chaste woman is like a fortress for a man’s heart—a fortress that shields him from the storms of divorce, the sting of infidelity, and the corrosive effects of shallow relationships. In a society that pressures women to prioritise experience over commitment, the chaste woman stands as a unique bastion of loyalty and integrity. She’s a choice that’s both wise and rare, a partner worth valuing, and an investment worth making.

Apr 01 2024
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The Modern Dilemma: Navigating Declining Attention Spans in the 2024 Social Media Era

In the captivating whirlwind of the 2024 social media landscape, one undeniable phenomenon reigns supreme: the ever-diminishing attention spans of users. As we delve deeper into the realms of TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, and beyond, the very fabric of our attention seems to fray under the relentless bombardment of content. But amidst this digital cacophony, one must pause and ponder: what implications does this trend hold for our collective consciousness?

The rise of platforms such as TikTok epitomises this shifting paradigm. With its bite-sized, endlessly scrollable content, TikTok has become the epitome of instant gratification. Users are whisked away into a vortex of 15-second videos, each vying for their fleeting attention. In this fast-paced realm, the concept of sustained focus becomes a relic of a bygone era.

Similarly, Instagram’s visual allure has captivated millions, yet its emphasis on aesthetics and brevity has contributed to the truncation of attention spans. The endless scroll of impeccably curated feeds fosters a culture of rapid consumption, where images are absorbed in a matter of seconds before being cast aside in favour of the next visual delight.

And let us not forget Snapchat, the ephemeral playground of the digital age. With its disappearing messages and ephemeral stories, Snapchat epitomises the transient nature of modern communication. In this realm, the currency of attention is fleeting, with users flitting from one moment to the next in a ceaseless quest for novelty.

Yet, amidst the allure of these platforms lies a profound dilemma: what happens when our attention spans dwindle to mere seconds? The implications are far-reaching, touching upon realms as diverse as education, politics, and interpersonal relationships.

In the realm of education, the challenge of capturing and maintaining students’ attention has never been more acute. With the constant lure of social media beckoning from every corner, educators are faced with the Herculean task of competing for attention against an ever-expanding digital cacophony. The traditional classroom model, with its emphasis on sustained focus and deep engagement, finds itself at odds with the ephemeral nature of modern attention spans.

Likewise, in the arena of politics, the ramifications of dwindling attention spans are profound. In an age where political discourse is increasingly conducted through soundbites and tweets, the nuances of complex issues are often lost in the clamour for attention. The rise of populism and polarisation can, in part, be attributed to this trend, as citizens gravitate towards simplistic narratives that align with their fleeting attention spans.

And what of interpersonal relationships? In a world where communication is reduced to emojis and fleeting messages, the very fabric of human connection is threatened. The art of sustained conversation, once a cornerstone of social interaction, is increasingly relegated to the sidelines as attention spans wane and digital distractions multiply.

Yet, amidst this gloomy prognosis, there is hope on the horizon. As we confront the challenges posed by declining attention spans, we are compelled to seek out remedies that foster mindfulness, presence, and sustainable engagement.

First and foremost, we must recognise the importance of cultivating digital literacy skills that empower users to navigate the online landscape with intentionality and discernment. By fostering critical thinking and media literacy, we can equip individuals with the tools they need to engage with social media in a meaningful and sustainable manner.

Furthermore, we must champion platforms and initiatives that prioritise quality over quantity, depth over superficiality. Whether through curated content feeds, algorithmic adjustments, or community-driven initiatives, there is ample opportunity to reshape the digital landscape in a way that promotes sustained engagement and meaningful interaction.

And finally, we must foster a culture of mindfulness and self-awareness, encouraging users to pause, reflect, and disconnect from the relentless stream of digital stimuli. By carving out moments of stillness and contemplation amidst the chaos of the online world, we can reclaim our attention and rediscover the beauty of sustained focus.

As we look to the future, the path ahead may be fraught with challenges, but it is also brimming with opportunity. By embracing the principles of mindfulness, sustainability, and intentionality, we can chart a course towards a digital landscape that nurtures rather than erodes our attention spans. And in doing so, we may yet reclaim the lost art of deep engagement in the 2024 social media era.

Jul 23 2023
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Culture, Informational

Once Undateable, Forever Undateable.

Everyone wonders what happens to those girls that you dated and didn’t work out with. A guy still in love may think that said girl will move on to a better guy. But perhaps the opposite occurs, they move on to a guy who may seem to be lesser on paper. But often it’s not so clear cut.

Toxic characteristics in girls (or guys for that matter) rarely ever go away. You simply can’t change a person. They need to change themselves. This usually doesn’t happen and is less likely to happen with age as people become more set in their ways and more stubborn.

For example, a girl with a horrible upbringing with poor parenting that instils levels of insecurity that is foreign to a normal person, may require excessive levels of validation that may not come naturally to a man who was raised in a more loving household.

Now, imagine this couple having difficulties in their relationship where the girl can’t see the hard work the guy puts in and the guy feels like he’s done everything and more but always feels like its not enough for the girl.

The clash, they fight, they break up.

Now do you think the girl will suddenly be filled with validation in her next relationship? Sure, she’ll learn bits and pieces from this failed relationship and often be placated by her friends that she deserves more. The guy will probably be more selective with whom he dates going forward, being more mindful of girls and their childhoods / relationships with family members. In the best case scenario, they find people who are more suitable for their needs and if they don’t they just repeat the cycle until someone is willing to put up with them, and this can take time.

The following examples are ones I’ve seen in people I know.

Girl A:
– Wealthy parents who gave zero attention to her whilst growing up.
– Need for validation and liberal upbringing meant she rode a ton of cock in her late teens and early 20s whilst she went on working holidays and through university.
– Girl has zero morals, entered flings with married men, slept with her taken friends.
– Life riddled with poor choices, excessive lying and emotional instability.
– Hit her late 20s and decided to settle with a dude that’s much lower than her in the sexual marketplace.
– Did 6 years with him then called off the engagement since her desire for fun and need to do better was more important.
Now: Single, riding random cocks on the apps in her 30s. Reality being avoided through short term thrills.

You see this girl, she was destined to be a carousel rider from the start. At most a dude can contain her for a while, but ultimately she’s just toxic on many levels. There’s no point investing time into a pit where a person is inherently a bad person like this.

Girl B:
– Upper middle class family, parents were both around and more attentive.
– Dad openly cheated on mum which led to her innate desire to be a “strong, independent woman”. Parents are still together.
– Spent most of her teens and early 20s abroad studying, obviously riding dicks too.
– Made poor choices galore, riding the cocks of random DJs at clubs, and wasting her youth on derogate types.
– Not very smart on an intellectual scale, hence, does not learn from mistakes.
Now: On Podcasts appearing desperate to have kids after single for a long time. Spends her days running a small fast food shop and will most likely date down to settle as her biological clock winds down

Girl C:
– Grew up in a toxic home where parents had 7 children and weren’t able to give them enough attention or love
– Toxic parenting and an upbringing filled with abusive language, threats, and no affection
– Bouts of severe depression throughout her adult life, attempts at self harm, requirement of long term therapy and anti-depressants.
– Constantly insecure and finds the smallest errors in a man to project a large issue creating rifts and a rollercoaster of emotions which would burn any normal person out.
– Siblings are all either divorced or in unhappy marriages
Now: On apps, looking for a guy for something serious. The reality being, said guy is getting a ticking time bomb who will more likely than not suck them into their toxic pit of misery.

Now the above are reasons why people should set standards and avoid the types of individual that don’t meet them. Why? Because there are some people who are simply not worth dating. Their relationships are often destined for disaster and being dragged down with them simply isn’t worth your time, energy, mental health and most importantly happiness.

Act wisely, set boundaries early and weed out the ones that don’t meet your standards.

Jun 27 2023
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Classic, Culture, Informational, Straight talk

“I’m too old for casual”

The above is something we hear too often. Weather it’s on dating apps, public transport, or at restaurants. It’s usually used by women, most commonly ones that are above the age of 30.

So what does it really mean?

There’s numerous schools of thought on this. On one hand, die hard feminists, and lefists will push you to believe that the woman is now ready for a long term relationship due to her maturity.

The other angle is.. she’s ridden a ton of bad boys all throughout her prime years and now is settling down since she knows a) Her time is running out and b) The quality of guy she can nab now is far lower than before.

But also, its an admission, an admission that the woman probably casually rode random men throughout when she was younger, tighter and hotter. They got the goods without any commitment, you sir, you get the used goods with full commitment.

Does it really mean that they aren’t going to spread their legs? Look, when you’ve been brought up to normalise casual bangs as part of your existence (e.g. Most Western women) its hard to let old habits die hard. The reality is, if you turn them on enough, you’ll likely to get them to spread their legs. They’ll rationalise it and regret it afterwards but as usual, not matter how old they are it’s a learning experience.

So next time you hear a girl saying she’s “too old for casual” just know you’re talking to a girl whose given up her best years to guys that got between her legs without any commitment, and is now looking for a parachute ahead of the freefall journey that awaits her sexual market value.

Mar 13 2023
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Financial Services, Informational

Living Below One’s Means

I tend to see a trend amongst the social media-addicted crowd these days. The focus on materialism and showing off seems to stem deeply in the crux of their image.

Show off your watch, show off your new car, or the holiday you spend your bonus on. Doing it for the ‘gram has become the holy grail for a generation whereby short-sightedness overtakes the long term build up of wealth. Is it much of a surprise that nearly half of Australians live pay cheque to pay cheque?

So what would you do differently? I understand the current economic environment is a tough with rampant global inflation and a threat of a recession hampering confidence in most.

Here are a few things I’d recommend doing to improve your financial position in the medium term.

  1. Invest in yourself

Most people, especially early on in their careers will complain they don’t earn enough. This is fine, so what I would recommend is think about the career path you’re on and what courses, skills, and attributes that you need to grow and develop to be in a role you want. If you’re in a graduate scheme or progression track weather its CA, CFA, Law or Medicine, then put in all your effort to passing those exams.

I know its hard especially with the long hours of work but delaying the gratification and giving yourself small rewards is the best way to get through the tough times. Having a set goal and lure of a better role, and salary is often the light at the tunnel that keeps most people motivated.

  • Build up a budget

Nothing standard, but it’s the best way to understand your status quo. There’s dozens of apps, spreadsheets, and sites that can help you devise a budget. Be sure to divide up your expenses as essentials and disposable income so you can figure out where you’re able to make cuts.

  • Cut down on expenses

Once you’ve made a budget, go through your list and shop around on making sure you get the best deal. Whether its your phone, broadband, insurance, there’s dozens of price comparative websites that can help you ensure you get the best deal.

  • Always save

A portion of your income, put it away to build up an emergency buffer, my recommendation is 3-6 months of living expenses. Get into the habit of always saving a % of your salary, many banking apps these days can help you do this in an automated manner.

  • Invest

Then once you have built up your rainy-day fund, think about investments, I’d probably start off with Index Funds initially. Have a flick through videos on YouTube or even Reddit. But basically start investing early on in your life to maximising the impact of compounding later on

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