Inside The University of Melbourne

Everyone wonders what happens to those girls that you dated and didn’t work out with. A guy still in love may think that said girl will move on to a better guy. But perhaps the opposite occurs, they move on to a guy who may seem to be lesser on paper. But often it’s not so clear cut.

Toxic characteristics in girls (or guys for that matter) rarely ever go away. You simply can’t change a person. They need to change themselves. This usually doesn’t happen and is less likely to happen with age as people become more set in their ways and more stubborn.

For example, a girl with a horrible upbringing with poor parenting that instils levels of insecurity that is foreign to a normal person, may require excessive levels of validation that may not come naturally to a man who was raised in a more loving household.

Now, imagine this couple having difficulties in their relationship where the girl can’t see the hard work the guy puts in and the guy feels like he’s done everything and more but always feels like its not enough for the girl.

The clash, they fight, they break up.

Now do you think the girl will suddenly be filled with validation in her next relationship? Sure, she’ll learn bits and pieces from this failed relationship and often be placated by her friends that she deserves more. The guy will probably be more selective with whom he dates going forward, being more mindful of girls and their childhoods / relationships with family members. In the best case scenario, they find people who are more suitable for their needs and if they don’t they just repeat the cycle until someone is willing to put up with them, and this can take time.

The following examples are ones I’ve seen in people I know.

Girl A:
– Wealthy parents who gave zero attention to her whilst growing up.
– Need for validation and liberal upbringing meant she rode a ton of cock in her late teens and early 20s whilst she went on working holidays and through university.
– Girl has zero morals, entered flings with married men, slept with her taken friends.
– Life riddled with poor choices, excessive lying and emotional instability.
– Hit her late 20s and decided to settle with a dude that’s much lower than her in the sexual marketplace.
– Did 6 years with him then called off the engagement since her desire for fun and need to do better was more important.
Now: Single, riding random cocks on the apps in her 30s. Reality being avoided through short term thrills.

You see this girl, she was destined to be a carousel rider from the start. At most a dude can contain her for a while, but ultimately she’s just toxic on many levels. There’s no point investing time into a pit where a person is inherently a bad person like this.

Girl B:
– Upper middle class family, parents were both around and more attentive.
– Dad openly cheated on mum which led to her innate desire to be a “strong, independent woman”. Parents are still together.
– Spent most of her teens and early 20s abroad studying, obviously riding dicks too.
– Made poor choices galore, riding the cocks of random DJs at clubs, and wasting her youth on derogate types.
– Not very smart on an intellectual scale, hence, does not learn from mistakes.
Now: On Podcasts appearing desperate to have kids after single for a long time. Spends her days running a small fast food shop and will most likely date down to settle as her biological clock winds down

Girl C:
– Grew up in a toxic home where parents had 7 children and weren’t able to give them enough attention or love
– Toxic parenting and an upbringing filled with abusive language, threats, and no affection
– Bouts of severe depression throughout her adult life, attempts at self harm, requirement of long term therapy and anti-depressants.
– Constantly insecure and finds the smallest errors in a man to project a large issue creating rifts and a rollercoaster of emotions which would burn any normal person out.
– Siblings are all either divorced or in unhappy marriages
Now: On apps, looking for a guy for something serious. The reality being, said guy is getting a ticking time bomb who will more likely than not suck them into their toxic pit of misery.

Now the above are reasons why people should set standards and avoid the types of individual that don’t meet them. Why? Because there are some people who are simply not worth dating. Their relationships are often destined for disaster and being dragged down with them simply isn’t worth your time, energy, mental health and most importantly happiness.

Act wisely, set boundaries early and weed out the ones that don’t meet your standards.