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Environmental Influence

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The further you deny it, the more you are lying to yourself. The environment which you are directly exposed to, will always influence you. How much so however, is dependent on you.

Think about it, when you are a child you are rewarded for displaying good behaviour and punished for misbehaving. Your parents influenced you.

When you’re in school, you are rewarded with awards and commended for good grades. When the opposite occurs you are encouraged to improve. Your teachers influenced you.

When you are in the workforce, you are rewarded for achieving your KPIs with raises and promotions and if you fail to do so, you aren’t. Your superiors influenced you.

When you work out, you are rewarded with visual attention from others if you are fit, and invisible to many if you’re unfit. The general public influenced you.

Simply, you gain validation for effort, you seek reward for effort, and you’re influenced by external factors.

Think about how much of your actions that you perform regularly come from pure desire within and how much of it is due to external rewards and punishments.

Whether it’s money, affection, validation, it’s no surprise to see that factors that arise from others lead to many of our motivations and actions.

You’re simply a product of your environment, a human being of your times. What’s around you has shaped you to who you are, the cultures you have gained exposure to, have impacted your viewpoints, your values, your mindset.

Simply consider on a hypothetical basis that you were born in a different era, or another culture, you would be so different to what you are now. You may struggle to recognise yourself. You could be studying something completely different. You could be working in a different profession. Your hobbies and interests could be vastly dissimilar to what they are right now.

Many people would like to believe that their actions come purely from internal desire, but once you think about it. Much of what you do is due to factors around you, impacting you.  

 

Comfortable Growth?

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One thing that always pops up in my mind is whether growth and comfort can co-exist.

As humans, we are designed to be lazy and enjoy the comfort in stability.

The issue with comfort is that over time things the skills, thoughts and abilities that initially lead you to that position begin to fade, you forget that enabled you to experience comfort in the first place.

Look at every successful person out there, they didn’t get there by relying on comfort, chances were taken & risks were involved.

Growth requires humans to test the outer boundaries of what is known to us. It takes willingness to get out of that predefined comfort zone, to look awkward, to make mistakes and by definition, to be uncomfortable and not run away from the discomfort. Many people often live by the motto that “If you are not growing, you’re dying.” Sure, that sounds great in writing but it’s not so simple. The problem with growth is that you’re forever running on a hamster wheel, only momentarily enjoying the hard work that you’ve put in.

Sure, you can enjoy comfort, but the mistake of imbalance arising from too much comfort is a deadly trap. So many people end up too risk-averse. They settle into that comfortable path that enables them to live that placid middle-class suburban life in that one city their whole life. They are too afraid to go against social norms and the marriage, mortgage, kids lifestyle begins to fall upon them. The deeper they get within it, the harder it is to defy.

It becomes obvious which is the correct path that enables you to be the best person you can be. Comfort should can be chosen after great success, but only temporarily, because comfort is vulnerability and growth is strength.

“I don’t need a man!”

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As previously outlined within an earlier post, the modern movement of “strong, independent woman” has taken the declining Western World by storm in present times.

It’s not uncommon to hear women constantly reassure themselves that they “Don’t need a man”. It seems as if a modern girl thinks it’s weakness to show a man how much she needs him. I’m sure some of you have worked within a a corporate environment, so the best analogy that seems to apply when dating these “strong, independent”  women, is like dealing with co-workers. They’re very thoughtful with what words escape their mouth. Every laugh is meticulously orchestrated—she must’ve laugh too hard now or you may think she thinks you’re funny. Every word is carefully analysed and judged—she must not show too much interest because that is a sign of vulnerability since she will believe that you have the upper hand now, so she’ll need to supplicate it by making fun of you.

The modern woman has exchanged one figure in the house, who happened to love them, for a tyrant who doesn’t care for them and can discard them like used goods, if budgeted figures aren’t being met. Career carouselling leaves these women on the back foot after they’ve “explored” themselves throughout their best physical years, then they can look to “settle” down, when that biological clock is close to winding down. Many women want it all without compromise, yet when they wind up with something less than the perfect lifestyle that gives them the unrealistic expectation of constant recurring happiness, they complain.

I recently received an email from a Feminist displaying strong signs of misandry, within it was the notion that Men are redundant now. Her argument revolved around the fact that women are now so independent and empowered that they don’t need a man in their lives, that’s any type of man. This simply cannot be the case, ever.

How you might ask?

Think about it, who owns the company that produces her handbangs? Mostly likely, a man.

Who are the people behind Apple? Samsung? Nike? Male shareholders.

Yet they say are independent and not reliant on men? That’s simply not true.

In previous generations, women were in the house, doing three hours of housework a day, with a lot of free time to pursue their own interests while the kids were in school, yet these days feminists will convince you that you have to do three times as much work for even less happiness, with a lower chance of having a stable family.

Feminists are always unhappy, dissatisfied, and constantly loathing men, supporting their worthless cause will make you as jaded and miserable as them. Soon you will be present in the midst of continually collecting cats in order to fill that void in your life that a worthy partner should. Is it just a co-incidence that most feminists are ugly? bitter? discontent?
No. these women have their own agenda, after failing miserably in various facets of life (Securing a worthy partner, progressing within her job etc) this simply cannot be due to her own shortcomings, nope, she has the time to attend a 3 hour SlutWalk but not enough time to jumpon the treadmill for 1 hour. So it seems for many they are rationalising this by jumping on the feminism bandwagon which is quickly becoming a popular coping mechanism.

Every deluded Feminist has their own agenda. Remember dictating garbage like “I don’t need a man” with the hope of convincing followers that it’s all true, isn’t for your benefit, it’s for their own.

The End Game

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It’s challenging to distinguish when to abandon something. Whether you’re dealing with a partner, money, work, or travel, there arises a point where you pass the plug of waning return. When the truthful move is to appreciate and reflect on achievements before moving on to a new endeavour, but why do we continue doing the unchanged thing? Why do we relinquish new prospects for an old routine that doesn’t provide us as much pleasure as it did in the past?
Gamblers know how difficult it is to just stop. It doesn’t matter if you’re up or down—there is a mental pull that keeps you seated until the classic result of losing all your money, no matter how well you may have been doing. In poker you go on “tilt” where your emotions override your logic and you lose everything while bitching about how some douche called the pot when he “should’ve” folded. Those who succeed at gambling will not only have to be accomplished at the game but also have the will power to get up from the table when there is little benefit in continuing.

Have you ever noticed businessmen who struggle to retire? They take their work on their so called “holidays” and even at an age where they could and probably should be living a simple life they continue the pursuit of further success, not because they need the money, but because the habit of doing so has defined them for so long and is difficult for them to just discard so easily.

The problem with humans is that we’re designed to believe that it’s never enough. We simply can’t stay satisfied with what we have. The hunger for more never seems to just merely fade away.
When is it time to say all is sufficient and ease out of pursuing something that provided so much happiness in the past? Why does it seem impossible for individuals to quit a game that has demarcated them for so long? Many individuals stay addicted long after they should’ve quit, clinging on to a former “passion” that no longer makes sense, all while overlooking the present-day. You face the risk of forgoing new pleasures that may take you way above what used to give you everything, but no longer does. The hardest thing in life is knowing when to get up from the table.

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What does your life look like?

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Common male living in the modern western world, this is how your existence will develop.  You will commence with aspirations, grand aspirations.  You will consider that you are intended for something extraordinary.  You will unwillingly abandon your visions as the ages pass and reality adamantly inclines upon you like a bitter blanket of grit.  That truth stares at you something like this –

You will age, get less attractive, and expand as each year passes.  Soon you will notice young, desirable females failing to take your flirtations seriously.  Your laziness and social disinterest will worsen until individuals do not even worry to be gracious around you.  You will progressively lower your standards in what you want in a girl until desperation thrusts you to marry a dumpy oinker well past her best years. You will now be paying full price for the used car that everyone experienced the “new car smell” with in its virile prime.  You will rut with her once a week initially, then once a month, then holidays only, then only on anniversaries.  You will release yourself tediously masturbating in the middle of the night by the cold wavering light of your computer monitor while that overstuffed warpig who doesn’t care for your desires snores in the bed you can no longer get a nod of sleep in.  Your one scrap of comfort will come from knowing your low value wife; will have as few options in the sexual marketplace as you do, essentially guaranteeing constant fidelity.  Eventually she will pump out a few snotty kids and your free time and discretionary cash will be completely obliterated.  You will dissipate whatever fragments of opportunities that pass your way as you settle into a placid, dull job paying the average wage obediently plugging away as a lifeless soul in the corporate hierarchy that will proceed to discard you like used trash the moment the value you offer drops. You will wordlessly bemoan your ineffectual, shrivelled manhood as the reputable order extracts the last penny of praise from your cracked spirit.  You will numb the pain with alcohol and countless hours vegging in front of the TV.  Hours, days, months, years will slip away.  Then, one dark, lonely day, you’ll consider the arch of your life.  You will feel the bedevilling grip of desolation as the overwhelming weight of what a barren nothingness your reality proved to be presses down on you.  Hardly understanding, you’ll shake.  And then, finally, the Grim Reaper will pinch your last breath and you will fade from the world as if you had never been here and when they bury you not one person will really notice and no one will really care because in your whole life you never ever, not even once, stepped outside the square, and lived life.

And it will be too late when you understand that the chains clutched to your ankles and wrists were unlocked all this time, and you were always free to go.

The Foodie Fad

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I’m sure many people who use social media see the rising trend of Foodies constantly updating their Twitter, Facebook and Instagram with photos of basically every meal they consume.

The core basics that are required to please their constant crave of showing off their amazing meals is something along the lines of the following:

1. Take your everyday meal, even microwaved ones and play around with it so it looks a bit neater.

2. Go through every Instagram filter and pick out one that makes it look most appealing.

3. Upload to each relevant social media website, with a line expressing the amazing taste/beauty/effort behind your creation.

Now that you’ve uploaded this, you have demonstrated to everyone around you how you are a complete person, you have it all, oh you can “cook” too!

It’s great to see that we all have this undying desire to inundate everyone with the most menial details of our lives.

 

I have slowly learned that if you want to amaze a bunch of foodies, you need only to these following five points in mind. Restaurants do this well.

1. Copy the trends, whether its fusion cuisine, charcuterie boards, fennel oil etc.

2. Add as much salt and butter as you possibly can.

3. Put medium-sized portions on gigantic plates. If it would look ridiculous to a starving African kid then the presentation is 100% correct.

4. Drizzle colorful sauces on the fringes of the plates to remind the foodie of an ice cream sundae.

5. Charge at least $25-30 a plate. If it’s cheap then it can’t be that good.

Recently, I was talking to someone bitching about how they were so poor and how the cost of living is too high. It later it came out that they ate dinner out three to four times a week. That laziness burned a hole in her pocket, gave her a crucial muffin top, and was clogging her arteries, all so she can pretend that she knows what good food is, and tell everyone she dined at ____ and that the food was ____ but the service was _____. She added that she was “too busy” to fuss around in her kitchen. Because riding that career train on express to the terminus is more important.

Now if a person is too busy to provide basic sustenance for themselves, that really reflects well on their priorities in life, as proper nutrition and suitable shelter are the two most important things to survival, it’s only normal to be too “busy” for it isn’t it?

Happiness, does it last?

It’s impossible to duplicate happiness.

If you’re ever in a period in your life, whether it’s in a country, with someone, in a job that brings you a lot of happiness and there is a break where you are absent from it, you simply cannot go back and re-live the same level of happiness that you experienced the first time.

It’s hard for many people to accept that, especially if there are places or people that made them happy in the past that no longer bring that same level of enjoyment to them at present, whether it’s due to things changing on their part or other external factors.

Is there really a remedy to it? All that can be said is that if there is something, some place or someone that makes you happy than stick with it until it doesn’t anymore. At least know that whatever happiness you got out of it has passed before you move on.

Happiness almost works as a drug, you have peaks (Highs), you have troughs (Lows), but you have that baseline, that baseline is what regulates you, you seek peaks but they don’t last forever, you have troughs and you seek to come back to your baseline, then at your baseline you’re seeking that next high (Withdrawl symptoms?), but it won’t ever last forever. The honeymoon only lasts for ever so long before you mundanely drift back to your baseline.

So does your baseline change? With a new environment? Changes to your financial position? Your environment doesn’t change your inherent disposition. It provides little increases to your pleasure level, but it always falls back to where it was at the start. Altering your belief system can certainly affect the regulator of your temperament, but only by a slight extent. So does money change this? Even money can’t change the basic emotions and insecurities we all feel, either from not having enough or not feeling fulfilled. It means the human experience is the same for everyone. It’s better to have money than not, but it doesn’t solve everything

If you’re ever in a place in your life where everything is going right, you’re at ease with yourself; you would be a sucker to let it go. Know that.

Crippled Emotion

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A slight change in pace for this post

When I was overseas recently, I was in a bookshop when there was a couple sitting nearby that caught my eye. I was in a third world country, where most people wouldn’t have the same privileges that I have. The woman was overweight and in a wheelchair sitting next to a man who appeared to have down syndrome. Both were dressed as if they lived on the streets. They held each other closely, clasping as if they were saying goodbye to each other for an extended period of time. They appeared on the brink of tears but you had a feeling they were happy.

So I’m sitting there, staring at these two people, who are unmindful to everyone around them, and realise they will probably never have the same level of comfort I experience on a daily basis. The struggles that they face everyday to lead a somewhat normal life in a country stricken by poverty is much more than anything anyone I know has faced. But they sit there, holding each other, experiencing a strong, deep connection. It’s a strong moment but soon you realise it all fades. Fades to black, reality hits.

But then you realise that many of the people living that lifestyle are the ones who don’t have a choice.

How many people would intentionally cripple your legs, retard yourselves, if it guaranteed something simple and joyful?

How many of you guys would move to a poverty stricken third world country where you risk your life everyday when you leave your house?

Be happy with not being happy.

Mediocrity is back in business.

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The Career Carousel

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I have already written in the past how the western culture has destroyed women from the perspective of a meaningful relationship capacity, now another common occurrence which is rather widespread and encouraged even, is riding the career carousel.

So many women excessively dedicate themselves into their career in the hope that it would lead them to greater success in life, happiness and financial prosperity. In my field especially, the added stress, and insane working hours often leads to young women, who are fresh and full of life when they commence their careers, to end up as jaded, bitchy, saggy women when they leave. The other alternative is ugly women who fail to attract a desirable man switch strategies from finding a provider male to collecting the resources themselves, for them this is probably a good escape.

Recently, I was looking over an article which displayed a photo of a former University of Melbourne Commerce graduate, when she finished her undergraduate degree she was quite attractive and had the added-value of being rather intelligent too, quite the catch you would think. After a few years working in Finance, working insane hours and enduring all that stress, she looks almost 10 years older than what her real age is. Quite a pity.

There is always just a little something “off” about women who are unreasonably dedicated to their professions and to gaining an acronymic procession of purposeless credentials. Careerist women are some of the most unpleasant, unfeminine women to be around. It isn’t hard to pick up on the majority of women that have been riding the career train for 5+ years in high-stress professions without any visual cues; their masculine attitudes are often more than enough to signal their level of venality that has infected them throughout their corporate ladder climbing days.

For many women the desire is there, more so due to the usual societal bullshit encouraging how empowering it is to be a “Strong, independent, career driven woman”. They often even believe that their employer is almost an extension of their personality. On so many occasions people voluntarily drop the name of their employer in the finance field and expect some sort of praise in response to it. Remember that you’re expendable, and having incredible amounts of loyalty to your employer is exactly what they would want from you. All the usual corporate culture bullshit you have been fed has conditioned you into that. I’d say that students at The University of Melbourne are probably one of the worst proponents of it; they ride the career train far too hard, and think that because they work at their respective organisations that their status is Oh so high! After being a corporate drone for years, they start to gain a realisation of how they have lost their individuality and are now as “Cookie Cutter” as the person sitting in the cubicle opposite them. It’s somewhat sad, sad to see the homogeneous output of what years of grinding it out too hard in the corporate world can spit out.

Attractive young girls of many other cultures usually put personal life, love and marriage before career, and would tend to have happier love and family lives. This is why fugly feminists with several degrees slur stay-at-home mums so clamorously; ugly women feel, on a deep instinctual level, that their sub-par attractiveness is the actual cause of why they don’t have the possessions that better looking women have, so they pretend they never desired those things or that the women who want those things are somehow lesser women, inexperienced, provincial dummies of a fictional patriarchy who does not appreciate the joys of climbing the corporate ladder, getting that CPI-aligned pay “rise” along with the stress and added responsibility of a new title. These feminists are, of course, involved in an animated, charred crusade of dishonesty.

After you realise that the HR spiels are bullshit and that it’s fairly impossible to be “Rich” working for someone else, reality hits and then comes your mid-life crisis, when you think to yourself “Is there all there is to my life?” But by then the damage is done. Your hair is probably shortened so its low maintenance, your wrinkles would probably be glistening from all those late nights working, you’ll probably be out of shape from those convenient meals, and you’ll be distant from people who are or were close to you. All that to pursue that title!

Women must realise that they should never feel entitled to a high quality partner because of their “good” job, we aren’t attracted to your earning capacity, and we cannot have sex with your pay-cheque or fall in love with your Master’s degree. Having a nice feminine allure and balancing out yourself with positive traits is more likely to land you someone of desire.

The brain-dead feminists will naturally ask, “Why doesn’t the same theory apply to men? Aren’t they escaping sad love lives by retreating to their careers?”

Don’t you know it’s different for guys? Unlike women, men are evolutionarily encoded to be resource providers for women. It is not a treachery of a man’s instinctive purpose in life to determinedly pursue accomplishment and honours. In fact, just the contradictory; it’s a verification of that primitive purpose. A man turning his back on raising his status is akin to a woman allowing herself to get overweight and disheveled.

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Rationalising Mistakes

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I’ve always wondered the rationalisation that loose women use to justify their slutdom.

A few honest questions though..

Was spending your best physical years riding from random cock to cock really worth it?

Was reducing your sexual market value, getting pumped and dumped, being used as a slam piece by random men, validating for you?

The mediocre sex, the sloppy one night stands, the lack of attention and validation, the “rush” of banging someone without knowing their name, was it all that great?

The morning after, the regret, the feeling of being used for carnal pleasure, the constant reassurances to yourself that you’ll change..

..It was all worth it, right?

Using all your money from your boring job in HR on nights out to bang random dudes who couldn’t care less about who you were was “Liberating”, wasn’t it?

Did David, the Lawyer, John, the Investment Banker, Kevin, the Doctor, hang around more than a few weeks? Did he satisfy your desire for commitment? Or did he just “Smash and Dash”?

Did you enjoy hearing the above men say things like “Women can have sex with whoever they want and not be shamed for it. That’s only fair. Such a terrible society we live in. Such double standards!”

Reality is a bit harsher, honey. Life really isn’t fair, learn to deal with that.

The process continues, go out, meet random guy, end up at his, and get discarded like week-old trash the next morning.

So what do you have to show for it? A few cases of UTIs, random STD’s and an abortion or two in there too?

Isn’t it odd that most raging sluts are usually your average girls in terms of looks? The validation and sense of desire they need from being merely average and banging a multitude of guys really must supplicate their insecurity about not being at the higher end of the beauty scales.

The more dicks a woman has been banged by, the less likely she’ll be satisfied by any particular one. As the number of he-rockets ravaging her she-pocket increases, her ability to bond with a man is accordingly decreased…. Why ancient truths have to be relearned by modern morons is beyond me.

But hey, who are we to complain? Just don’t get mad when we don’t return your calls or texts and expect Prince Charming to show up.