Ambition and Safety are the two opposites that factor into many career choices. Given the stage of your career and life, answers to which one you should prioritise will differ.
Ambition (Wealth): Say you’ve just graduated from University or are in that 1–5-year range of commencing your first full-time role, you most likely have all the motivation in the world as the corporate grind hasn’t worn you down just yet. The corporate “perks” still seem like a novelty and furthering yourself through “learning and development opportunities” and “growing your CV” are probably factors that feature high up on your career agenda.
For this stage, ambition is perfect, go on, slave out that role in Investment Banking for a few years, do the equivalent of 8 years of work in 4 years and leverage those skills to find a “cushier” job once you’re ready, or ride up the ladder and stick it out until you no longer want to.
I’ve also come across people who choked hard after university then managed to cover it up with some better roles a few years in, most of these types had a major chip on their shoulder as they struggled to land anything decent straight out the gate and felt the need to prove themselves, so they did, just years later compared to everyone else.
You’re wanted and in demand in many more companies across different geographies and industries.
Financially you’ll likely be able to command much better remuneration, if not already, then in the future.
Pivoting into less demanding roles and industries is much easier than vice-versa, you’ll have a solid work ethic and your expectations of yourself will be a lot higher compared to those around you if you decide to take a step back.
The network you build will be with some of the most accomplished people you know. This becomes much more important later as you can get a lot of “favours” from the right people.
You will work like a dog and potentially lose some of the best years of your life slaving away late into the night and working weekends.
All that stress will very likely impact your health, especially considering you’ll struggle to sleep well and wake up in the middle of the night thinking of work.
Aging is a real tragedy when you work a job that you always need to be “switched on” for.
Work becoming such a huge part of your life will take a toll on your personal life, many relationships die because one or both parties aren’t able to put in the time, effort, and commitment required to maintain them.
Perhaps you’ve done your years slaving it out in Banking, Consulting, or in a top-tier Technology company where you’ve made a bit of bank and cashed out your stock options. The burn it took on your health started to add up and you’re looking for a more cruisey role so you can at least enjoy some time outside of work or focus on relationships/family/hobbies. It would make perfect sense at this stage to prioritise Safety.
However, some people, finish university and do this from the start, sometimes by choice, other times through necessity. There’s nothing wrong with this at all, but to coast from Day 1, when you could do so much more, one must wonder where all that extra energy goes?
The upsides and downsides are basically the opposite of what was written earlier. Less money, more time, better health, lazier network, harder to pivot careers/move abroad, and potential for better social and personal life.
I remember coming across this quote from the Dalai Lama which I feel is relevant to this discussion:
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered “Man! Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
It’s been a while since I finished school and university, and in that time things have changed drastically. We’ve gone to just about every school using personal laptops, we’ve been forced to adapt to remote learning due to the pandemic, and what used to be abnormal, is now normalised.
Here are a few pieces of advice in no particular order I’d give to students today.
Don’t just rock up to class and leave
Don’t be like everyone else that just simply turns up to class, zones out, then leaves. If you really care about topics, make that time to speak to teachers, tutors and do some background research and express your views on the findings.
Balance out useful subjects with easy electives
Everyone knows breadth/elective subjects are largely a joke. I’d recommend taking easy subjects when you have semesters that you know that will have a tough time, but also don’t be afraid to put in the time to take on something useful when you’re able to. Some of the skills you’ll pick up might actually come in handy in the future. I’ve had a few friends take coding subjects as electives and now the type of work they do is more focused on that rather than what they actually majored in.
Embrace the student life
As someone that blazed through a 3 year undergraduate degree and ended up in the world of banking and consulting, I do look back at the whirlwind that was University. It’s a great space of time in your life where you’ll have the time to pursue hobbies, build great friends and learn. Enjoy it, it probably won’t come around in the same form again.
Keep in touch with people after graduating
Friendships and networks are like plants, they need watering and maintenence for them to keep growing. So instead of slowly losing touch with everyone once you hit the real world, make the effort to maintain connections with people. Go on that coffee catch up or lunch meet up. Don’t be afraid of being the person to follow up on unreplied messages. I can assure you that there’s been so many times where someone I know has ended up introducing me to other people that have been really beneficial for me both on a personal, profesional or social level.
Don’t be afraid of the real world
So many students (Commerce students in particular..) are so fearful that they will not find a job after University. There’s no real need to be afraid. People I know that struggled after university and did basic jobs for a year or so managed to find something more meaningful and climb the ladder just as fast as someone that got straight into a graduate program. Everyone has their own pace, so don’t be afraid to struggle at the beginning because there’s many paths to achieveing success.
Although the above is not an exhaustive list. I would encourage students to take some of these tips onboard. Hindsight is a valuable tool so always be open to hearing other peoples advice and making the choice as to weather you would think it would be beneficial for you to adopt.
Below is a classic post from a blog that is no longer functional, LaidNYC. This post is from over 7 years ago.
Once upon a time, the harsh winter of northern latitudes brought forth a great selective pressure upon its human inhabitants. The challenges of the terrain selected for the clever, and the cold climate allowed brains to expand with little metabolic cost. The minds it shaped brought forth innovation, first benefitting themselves and their spawn. Then capital, markets, and money coevolved with agriculture and eventually developed into an Industrial Revolution to solve problems for the masses at a low price of $19.95. Now western humanity has all the comfort and prosperity that 99.9% of humans did not have throughout history, with none of the brainpower required.
Today the threats of predators, vicious weather, starvation, and sexual excess have been solved by innovations built by great minds: Temperature controlled housing, superior technology, and weaponry, mass-produced food, medical innovation. It is only with these prosperous luxuries that this generation can consider progressive arguments that would get themselves laughed out of their village in shame throughout civilized history. Indeed, being a progressive has become a way to signal just how comfortable and high status you are. Thank you for the innovations in reproductive medicine, now stay out of my bedroom while I laugh at the religious ethics that was my ancestor’s penicillin. Open your borders, disarm and share everything with the world or you’re a backward racist hick. This washing machine is great, now stop oppressing women like a caveman.
With these comforts, for the first time, the selective pressures that will shape the genome of future generations are not coming from nature, it is coming from high verbal IQ shysters within the populace. But Darwin doesn’t care. Threats to reproductive fitness can come from a bear running at you, or from a TV telling your daughter to never settle. You see the unfortunate story of a woman who spent the currency of her youth on degrees and contracepted sex with alpha males and then her IVF doesn’t take at 35. What I see is a gazelle that got eaten by a cheetah because it couldn’t run fast enough. To the universe, the result is just the same. There are those who won’t reproduce by their own carelessness or choice. It isn’t to be fought. It is an evolution in action. It isn’t sad, it is a beautiful thing to witness.
Those who are most susceptible to believe the slick liars when they preach equalism and egalitarianism and pathological altruism will see their reproductive fitness decline. Teach your daughter to be a strong independent feminist and you’ll take your death rattle with no grandchildren at the side of your bed. Embrace the blank slate and don’t say anything racist in front of your children, and your grandkids end up looking nothing like you. Refuse to extend a middle finger at the warm n’ fuzzy everyone-gets-a-trophy philosophy and your son ends up a pussy. But with evolution, there are winners as well as losers. Some will resist these pressures. Indeed, the cultural Marxists should be careful what they wish for: They’re selecting for the smartest, most fertile, most racist, most patriarchal group the world has seen.
Of course, the high-time preference underclass who can’t summon the willpower to reach for a condom in the heat of the moment will continue to spawn above the carrying capacity of their earning power. But an Idiocracy can only be supported by the grace and altruism of wealth-producing hosts. The civilized world that they thieve trust from is held together with precarious threads, not least of all being a novel fiat reserve currency. A black swan event will not be kind. When the greenback goes full Madoff and/or technological advances finally crush all the monkey-sorting-widget jobs and the parasite class must be formalized with a Guaranteed Minimum Income, you will see the flight on a massive scale. Secession, expatriation, high walls, immigration-by-genome, and no apologies.
So keep up the “progress”. Release those cheetahs and we’ll see which gazelle can run the fastest. You think each time a universal ballot or activist judge swings left you’ve won a battle when really you’re just creating more legroom for my grandkids in Elysium.
I swear, I hear this question so much, especially amongst high school and university students.
In short, the answer is: Yes.
But the caveat to it is: It varies.
I take this from a Bachelor of Commerce perspective, since that is what I studied.
First of all, there should not be any reason why you should not aim to get the best High school results possible and aim to get into your first preference. But however, life doesn’t always go that way.
Does that mean your life is over?
No, not at all.
Can you still work in competitive fields like Consulting or Investment Banking? Yeah, it’s possible still, but harder.
Why harder? Generally, with any type of mass recruitment at junior levels, the first round of culling usually depends on how well well-rounded application you submit. Well rounded? Well, that’s one with solid grades and strong extracurriculars. Since thousands of students are applying, it’s usually the students from the top universities that make it through since they are often the ones that put in the time and energy to research the roles, and craft an application that stands out.
So, getting through that first round, I think it helps to go to a Top educational institution. If you didn’t get into one, you can always work hard and transfer into one after doing a year at another university.
But also, I’ve seen numerous lateral hires into top tier consulting and banking roles, some of them went to “less respected” Universities, worked themselves up and ended up being laterally hired into more senior roles. So, it’s definitely possible, but regardless, both approaches require a lot of hard work.
There are always numerous routes to get to an end goal, and just because the first route didn’t work out doesn’t necessarily mean you should give up. You could even work a few years, then do a Masters program at a more prestigious university either locally or abroad and then try your luck, I’ve had many acquaintances go down this path and achieve great success.
So tl;dr – Does it matter which University you attend? As a Commerce undergraduate student, Yes, it matters to a degree for certain professions. But there are other options to get to your goal. All options require hard work.
For other degrees like IT, or Health related ones, it matters less. Generally, as there’s demand and growth in those sectors.
“You just like younger girls because they’re the only ones who fall for your dating tricks! You like them because they are easier to manipulate!”
Let’s cut right to the core:
Feminists say things like this because they hate young, beautiful girls and believe they are all stupid.
Let me tell you something: when it comes to relationship dynamics, girls are wily and smart as
fuck. They play most men like fiddles from age 12 onward. They think about relationships, talk constantly about relationships, and have many social interactions. Whether they want cock, money, attention, or commitment, they know how to get it.
Girls are not stupid, innocent victims.
They are predator, not prey.
Girls of every age are the manipulators far more often than they are the manipulated.
After age 24, women definitely do not get smarter about relationships. Their justifications do get stronger, though, out of necessity. (Besides, this premise is backwards. It is far easier to game older women into bed. They have less options and its likely been longer since they’ve had a good ol’ dicking.)
“You have nothing in common with a girl that young!”
I don’t have anything in common with the girls I’m attracted to, and I like it that way. It’s not a matter of age, it’s a matter of masculine and feminine.
I lift weights, she does yoga.
I order the steak; she orders the salad.
I watch Breaking Bad; she watches The Bachelorette.
I wear a suit; she wears a dress.
I don’t want a girl who sits on the couch watching football and scratching herself, because that’s my thing.
Having too much stuff in common sucks.
Wait, scratch that, I have a few things in common with the young girls I date: we both have high fertility and a deep passion for each other. Good enough for me.
“You date younger girls because you can’t get a girl your own age!”
Young girls being so in demand in the sexual market, any guy that can date one could easily pull an older one, he just doesn’t want to.
“No, really, an older woman would never put up with your shit!”
I won’t put up with her loose skin, baggage and jaded bitterness. Everybody wins!
“When you grow up in different times you have no common experiences to relate to!”
So, if I tell a girl the first CD I bought was Eminem – The Slim Shady LP and she says “Wow, me too! I was also born in 1989 and I also bought that CD in primary school with my chore money!” Is that a feminist’s idea of a good relationship? Conversations like that?
“You’re intimidated by a strong, independent woman!”
Replace “intimidated by” with “not attracted to”, and you have the truth.
When it comes to attracting a man, strength, independence and wisdom mean nothing. Youth, beauty and sweetness mean everything. Don’t Lean In.
“Younger girls are inexperienced, you should date someone older who knows what she wants!”
You see how most of the shaming tactics feminists use involve demeaning younger girls?
Young girls know what they want just fine.
Older women know what they want to: They want to be young again.
“Young girls are so immature!”
Age does not equal maturity.
Age can give a woman “maturity” not by virtue, but by NECESSITY:
When nobody is paying your way anymore, you have to work.
When nobody is giving you attention anymore, you stay out of clubs.
When the band won’t let you backstage anymore, you stop loving rock concerts.
Those who know what’s up will know that I wouldn’t not encourage guys to date immature sluts regardless of age.
Just because clubs are packed with sub-24-year-old skanks, that doesn’t mean all sub-24 year olds are club-going skanks.
There are girls who are both young and mature enough for a relationship. A girl who is not marriage material when she is young will never be marriage material.
“What does fertility matter if you’re not having kids with these younger girls?”
First of all, I do want kids.
Second of all, beauty is a proxy for fertility, and that’s what gets the dick hard.
This is really a retarded point so I don’t know why I’m responding to it. It’s like asking a girl
“why have sex if you’re on birth control?”
“You’re just having fun, when you start looking for something serious, you’ll get a girl your own age.”
When I am looking for “something serious”, aka long term commitment and kids, why the fuck would I choose a less fertile girl?
That is actually backwards. It makes far more sense for a younger guy to fuck cougars for a while
and then say “when I’m ready for kids I’ll choose a younger girl”. But I would never recommend such a strategy, because cougars are gross.
A friend of mine did the “girl his own age” thing, now they are 32 and want kids. She is having
fertility problems, so they are paying thousands for the turkey baster technique and so far, it hasn’t worked. 32 years old. Think about that. That’s serious, alright: Seriously depressing.
“Women in their thirties are at their sexual peak!”
Women in their thirties do not have higher sex drives. They have more unfulfillled sex drives. There is a difference. A woman may feel hornier in her thirties because for the first time attractive men aren’t lining up to please her sexually
How’s this for perspective: People who are not given free access to all you can eat buffets are hungrier. If you believe in evolution, then you understand how absurd it would be for a women to be horniest at the time of her life when she is more apt to give birth to retarded children.
“What would you even talk about with a 20 year old?”
The same things I would talk about with a 30 year old, only my conversation partner would be hotter.
Seriously, I do not need to talk about the eighties and early 90’s in order to have a successful conversation.
Flirting and connecting is the same regardless of age.
“Older women are sexy!”
Haha. Good one!
“No, really, I am a woman and I am much better looking now than when I was 19 or 20!”
This can be true… if you are a recovering fattie. Did you recently lose a large amount of weight because you were tired of being caught in harpooner’s crosshairs?
“No, I was never fat, I just grew into my features and I’m much better looking at 27 than I was at 18!”
If you want to be taken seriously, provide comparison pictures. I’m not holding my breath.
“But Beyonce/ Salma Hayek/ Jennifer Aniston, etc is still hot!”
Take your favourite over 30 female celebrity that the media gushes about. There are at least 20 undergrads your local University that are hotter than her. Some men may deny this, but their boners wouldn’t if given a bedroom test. This is true despite the fact that those old female celebrities are hotter than 99 % of women their age. If there’s no hope for them, there’s certainly no hope for average women.
Bonus: The University girls wouldn’t need expert photoshopping and world-class makeup application to look hot.
“Younger girls have so much drama!”
There are single girls of any age who are drama-prone. I always recommend guys screen out the drama queens. People who say this have a narrow characterization of younger girls. Not all 21 year old girls are in nightclubs crying every weekend. Some of them like to do things like read and spend time with their families.
I’m not trying to convince anyone to pull the girl dancing on the bar into an LTR. Find the diamonds in the rough and say no to drama queens and attention whores.
However, that younger girls are more prone to drama is a testament to their hotness and options.
Or: older women wish they had that much drama.
“You date younger girls for your ego! You just want to brag about it because you’re insecure!”
Men date younger girls because they are hot.
I am against bragging about your sex life, but any sense of well-being a guy gets from dating a young, beautiful, fertile girl is evolutionarily justified.
“Guys who date younger girls are creepy!”
Creepiness is not an age. Some guys who TRY to date younger girls are indeed creepy. Guys who successfully bridge large age gaps are not.
No, it would be gross for a guy to be attracted to old women. Icky!
“So, you expect women to just go away and die when they get older? They have no value on earth?”
I am talking about sexual market value and attractiveness only.
That you think sex is the only measure of female value says more about you than it does about me.
I love my mother, aunts, cousins, etc. They have great value to me. Females are the care givers and supporters of family.
Want to still mean something to somebody when you’re 60? Have kids, and be a devoted wife and mother.
So, there you have it.
I hope this clears things up for the aging fertility-drained, expired cougars who failed to attract a good man, when they were young, and for the bitter snarky herb army who have been invisible to women under 25 for their entire lives. Find solace in each other during this difficult time.
Girls love to be guided by someone who knows what they are doing.
You’ll bond over the shared experience.
She’ll love recognizing your status over her.
She’ll tingle by submitting to your instruction.
She’ll get good vibes and feel good as she improves.
You’ll display yourself as a man with power over his environment.
A man should have a few things he has mastery over, or at the very least a far greater understanding of than the average girl.
Remember: It’s not about how good of a teacher you are, or how much she actually learns. It’s about the experience. Also note: If you’re teaching something physical, there’s plenty of opportunity to touch her. So, do it.
There’s a reason ‘guy teaches girl how to shoot pool’ is a Hollywood classic: The shit works. I think a guy really should have some basic pool skill if only for this reason alone. Great second date idea.
If you have a not-too-boring job, teach her something basic you do at work. Roleplay if it involves social interaction.
Most modern women can’t cook, so teach her a new recipe at your place.
Teach her to throw a spiral or a baseball or shoot hoops. Any sports skill is good. Girls look so cute when they’re failing at athletics.
Teach her pressure points or other peculiarities of the human body.
Show her how to do her job or homework. I’ve helped girls write cover letters and resumes with great results. Boring? No, because I embed teasing in the fake cover letter like “I’m Julie and you should hire me because I have long shiny hair and I’m only semi-annoying”
Be creative. Have fun with it.
If you don’t have skills to teach, your first task is to acquire some skills.
Catherine inherits a large fortune when she turns 17.
She happily starts spending it on things that please her: a new car, designer clothes, Christian
Louboutin shoes, nights out with her friends, lavish parties, and exciting vacations across the world. She wants to start her own company eventually, but for now she enjoys not working and living life like a movie star. When Catherine hits her mid-twenties, she notices her fortune is close to half what it once was when she inherited it. It is still plenty, but she realizes it won’t last forever and she should start investing some of it.
She takes meetings from many companies who are salivating for her money. Many pitchmen and executives’ wine and dine her and make her promises about what her return on investment will be.
She picks an exciting company – a high risk, high reward venture. She dreams of recovering all the riches she once had and then some. Unfortunately, the company fails. It seems the pitchman may have lied to her, and frauded other investors as well.
Seeing more of her fortune dwindle, Catherine picks another high risk/high reward company to try to gain it back. When it fails, she tries another.
When Catherine crosses her thirtieth birthday, her fortune is about 1/9th what it once was when she inherited it.
Catherine realizes now she needs some guaranteed return. With her now rather small sum to invest, no executives are wining and dining her or competing for her money. She picks a stable, blue chip company to put her money in. To the company, her investment is modest and fairly replaceable.
Catherine has always dreamed of starting a small company of her own, but her financial advisor tells her she will probably have to take out a loan to do it.
This makes her very sad.
She tries to start a company, but she can’t and an angel investor to help it flourish, and it fails.
She withdraws money from her stable investment to live on throughout her late thirties and forties, occasionally hoping for a visit from an enthusiastic start-up who can turn her modest money into the large fortune she once had, but that visit never comes.
Shortly after she turns fifty, Catherine’s money is nearly gone, and she has to start working.
Monica inherits a large fortune when she turns 17.
She holds it for a few years, putting it in an account and being very choosy about how to spend it. After some time, she realizes that inflation and expenses are slowing eating away at her money, so she decides to invest.
Many executives and pitchmen are willing to wine and dine her for her money. She sees through the flashy salesman offering risky propositions and promising high returns. She chooses a stable company with a good reputation: Blue Chip, Inc.
The dividends are immediate: Modest but steady.
Being such a large investor, Blue Chip, Inc treats her like gold. Her money helps them enthusiastically expand operations and bring in new revenue streams.
Occasionally a slick talking salesman comes around promising her billions for a small investment but she rebuts them quickly, seeing a great future with Blue Chip, Inc.
In her twenties with the steady dividends coming in, Monica decides to start her own small companies – 4 in all. Since she is such a profitable, trustworthy and loyal business partner, Blue Chip, Inc is happy to invest in Monica’s companies and offer business and legal expertise to help them thrive.
Her thirties are a happy time as she runs her four companies, bringing them towards profitability. It is tough but satisfying.
In her late forties and fifties, her small companies all grow profitable and strong enough to support offshoot companies of their own. She has some stock in these companies as well. Being a trusted partner for so long, Blue Chip, Inc invests as well.
Monica has grown rich beyond her wildest dreams. She lives off the large dividends she still gets from Blue Chip, Inc and reinvests the rest in her companies.
Hey I can only stay for a minute. (He talks to her the rest of the night)
“…that is why things would never work out between us” (Then he takes her phone number)
“We should stop” “Yeah, we should” (he keeps going)
You can come in but only for a minute (She sleeps over)
Hands off, this shit ain’t free (He touches her 30 seconds later)
It is like a hack or a cheat code to seduction: You can physically and logistically escalate as long as you verbally deny it. Its to the point where I’m convinced you really could do one thing whilst saying you’re doing another and both parties are fine with it. Some whatt like discovering a flaw in a video game that lets you beat it every time.
If I could sum up the concept it is this: be the resistor (verbally), be the escalator (physically). Fundamentally speaking, this works because the one who wants the other less is in power. So being the resistor is a power play.
The catch? Girls know this and do it, and they do it better than men.
Do you always talk to girls on the street?
Nothing’s going to happen, I’m a good girl.
We’re not going to have sex tonight.
Most guys don’t get that girls are grabbing the power with these statements so they switch into chase mode like a pussy-begging dullard, leaking more and more control over the interaction until the girl’s legs snap violently shut like a bear trap.
Don’t do that.
Instead, you retake the control. Re-establish yourself as the resistor. When she steps back, you step back a little further. Every time she sets a boundary, you reset one in a different place. Every time she draws a line in the sand, you redraw one on your terms.
Her: I don’t kiss on the first date
You: Good, I don’t kiss before marriage
Her: We’re not having sex tonight
You: Relax, are you always thinking about sex?
Her: Let’s just be friends.
You: Nah I don’t see you as a friend. We shouldn’t hang out anymore.
Any guy with some experience with slaying slutty girls would know that they are usually friends with gay guys… and why you may ask, this should explain it all:
“I want you to meet my friend Brandon!”, said Lindsay
This was our third “date”. I had banged her on the 1st and second and she had a clit ring and
was a bartender. So yes, she was a slut. So no, I had no intention of meeting any of her friends, especially
not a male friend.
But I ask you this: Why did I immediately know her friend Brandon was gay? With zero doubt in my mind.
The answer is, of course, because she was a slut. And sluts love having gay friends.
Not only that, ONLY sluts love having gay friends. It’s time to put to bed the myth that girls
love gay guys. Normal girls with an intact emotion of disgust might vote for Sanders and pay lip service to gay rights but they DO NOT want to spend an appreciable time around gays. A normal girl will find the constant sass annoying and the gay stories disgusting.
So sluts love gays.
They can bond over how much they like dick. Lots of dick. Lots of risky dick, quickly.
Any person with a normal, non-perverted sexual orientation and habits would find taking a “hawt guy’s cock” ten minutes after you meet him in a club bathroom to worthy of a sneer and spurn, but a gay man will understand you, sweetheart.
The non-judgement is also why sluts are the most outspoken about other liberal causes: always egalitarian, socialist, uncompetitive, everyone’s equal type rainbows and unicorn bullshit. They understand that a society who judges by any type of rational standard will judge sluts harshly so they want to rid society of ALL JUDGEMENT.
YES! Sluts can get all the alpha cock they can eat but nobody will stick around. The beta guys will stick around, but there’s no excitement. So where is a girl to get her fill of alpha tingles after the hot club promoter won’t return her text messages?
From the gay guy who push/pulls, negs her, won’t take her seriously, but will still be kind, sensitive, supportive and shop with her! The perfect man, besides the Hepatitis C!
So really, sluts might be friends with gays because NOBODY ELSE WILL HAVE THEM. Sluts and fags, a match made in heaven.
So really a girl who must turn to gays for attention is a girl who is being rejected by desirable men…and women.